In the journey of personal development, the beginning is often the most confusing and challenging. Here are three of our most essential posts to get you started.

• Level Up: How To Reach Your Full Potential
• Step Up: How to Take Responsibility For Your Life
• How to Grow Up: A Practical 10-Step Guide to Improving Your Character

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This blog holds enough self-improvement content to fill three large books, so we’ve sorted it by year and category for easy browsing:

Note: Some posts from before 2020 might not meet our current quality, and we’re working on enhancing them.

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We hope these resources support your journey to grow, level up, and step up.

• Why More Money Isn’t The Answer: Finding Contentment and Happiness in Tough Economic Times
• 3 Liberating Lessons From Overcoming Death Anxiety: How to Live Despite Fear And Uncertainty 
• Quit Seeking Validation: 7 Useful Strategies to Build Unquestionably Strong Confidence 
• Why Beginners Sometimes Outperform Experts: How To Stay Innovative as an Expert 
• Why You Haven’t Gotten What You Want:
• Reframing Your Flaws: How Embracing Your Difference Can Make You Extraordinary
• [What If] You Unconsciously Hate Success?
• The Courage to Be Wrong: Why Authentic Self-Expression Is Your Path to Freedom and Growth
• 10 Lessons To Help You Get Better at Picking and Keeping Good Friends
• Should We Abandon Religion? Growing Beyond Blind Faith
• The Door of Your Mind: Why Critical Thinking Trumps Closed-, Narrow-, and Even Open-Mindedness. 
• What It Means To Step Up: Living Life To The Fullest
• The Identity Trap: Why Your Success Might Be Holding You Back (And How to Break Free)
• My Burnout Story: 7 Tested Solutions to Reclaim Your Life and Sanity At Work
• Managing Ego: How To Stop Taking Yourself Too Seriously
• Why You May Resent The People You Love
• The Compounding Effect: How To Ensure Your Tiny Efforts Lead To Massive Success
• Blind Following: Why You Follow Leaders Without Question
• The Journey To Becoming: My 2024 Living Eulogy
• The Art of Sharing Sensitive Stories: Talking About Hard Topics Without Hurting Anyone
• Why You Should Take More Photographs 
• Sex For The Right Reasons: This Is Why I Want To Make Love To You
• Living an Absurd Life: How Do One Find Meaning in a Meaningless Existence?
• Why Long-distance Relationships Deserve Your 100%
• Maybe You Don’t Know What Commitment Entails: The Sacrifices That Come With a Serious Relationship
• When Your Dream Fails: 4 Solid Ways to Move Forward 
• Confident Ignorance: The Power of Admitting That You Don’t Know.
• 21 Fun Things To Do With Your Crush [Perfect Ideas When Hanging Out Alone]
• Why Dreams Fall Apart
• Level Up: How To Reach Your Full Potential
• How to Grow Up: A Practical 10-Step Guide to Improving Your Character
• Spirituality: A Path To Becoming Your Best Self [And The Role of Religion]
• What It Means To Grow Up
• How To Pursue Personal Goals Without Neglecting Family Expectations
• Breaking Free From Patriarchy: What The Feminists Want From Society
• Adult Responsibilities Weighing You Down? Rediscover Your Childlike Attitude To Overcome
• The Unexpected Cost of Showing Off
• Limiting Beliefs: 10 Tips To Overcome Thoughts That Hold You Back.
• Choose Your Tribe: How To Find and Connect With People Like You
• What You Need More Than Money: Self-actualisation 
• Not Ready For A Relationship Just Yet? Here Are 7 Steps To Prepare Yourself For A Partnership.
• I Saw Iwájú, and It Got Me Depressed: The Sad Reality of Nigeria Depicted In a Disney Animation.
• Uncovering Your Passions: 10 Ways To Discover Your Passions
• What To Do With Your Life: An Antidote to Wasting Your Life
• How To Live For Yourself: Embracing Your Uniqueness For A Unique Life
• Does “Body Count” Really Matter In a Relationship?
• The Crab Mentality: Are People Around You Holding You Back?
• Finding Purpose In Pain: How To Grow Through Pain (Instead of Suffering) 
• Living With Insecurities: The Wisdom of Enough
• Managing Emotions: How To Turn Your Emotions Into Power
• Stop Settling For Less: 10 Steps To Choosing A Fulfilling Relationship
• Overcome Blame-Shifting Habits: The Path to a Responsible and Fulfilling Relationship
• 10 Things You Can Expect From A Relationship
• Standards Vs. Expectations In Relationships: The Key To Avoiding Disappointments and Toxicity
• Unconditional Love: How To Love Someone’s Soul
• 10 Types of People You Shouldn’t Confide In (And What to Do Instead)
• Chronically Single: 10 Reasons You Might Still Be Single [And What You Could Do About It]
• Build Deeper Connections With People With These 5 Tips
• Scared To Say “I Love You”: 7 Steps To Overcome The Fear
• 10 Things To Do With Your Life [Before You Die] 
• How To Improve Your Social Life [Even If You’re Not Outgoing]
• Unreciprocated Love [+8 Secrets To Receiving The Love You Deserve]
• Are You Falling In Love? What To Expect And How To Handle The Stages of Attraction.
• How to Ask Her to Be Your Girlfriend (Without Scaring Her Or Risking Embarrassment)
• 10 Tips To Help You Find A Soulmate
• Telling Your Crush You Like Her: An Honest Approach For People With NO Experience
• A Bad Day Is Not A Bad Life: 7 Ways To Get Over Bad Days And Be Happier
• 12 Reasons You May Feel Embarrassed To Be In A Relationship [And How To Fix That]
• [Good & Bad] Reasons to be in a relationship with someone
• How To Know If You Are Ready For A Relationship
• 3 Tips To Make Valentine’s Special For Him
• 5 Reasons Why You Do The Things You Swore Not To Do  
• How To Be More Respectful To People [Even When You Don’t Like Them]
• Fake Friends Fake: How To Tell Your Friend Is Fake
• Why Do We Still Have LGBTQ+ Individuals In Nigeria?
• Self-rejection: Why You Avoid The People And Things You Love And Want.
• 3 Strategies For Making Decisions When You Don’t Have All The Information 
• How To Stop Feeling Like You’re Falling Behind In Life?
• Why It Is Okay To Quit; But Never Okay To Give Up.
• How Not To Waste Your Life:  Making The Most of Youth To Avoid Regrets In Old Age
• Learn Anything Easier And More Effectively [7 Battle-tested Strategies] 
• They Call It Selfish, I Call It Self-love
• See Finish: 7 Tips To Counter Contempt Through Familiarity And Maintain Respect In Your Relationships
• Purpose: The Most Important Thing You Can Do With Your Life.
• How To Be Happy Amidst Constant Challenges In Life.
• 26th Eulogy: Sisyphus And Rocks
• The Feminists Have A Point: “Patriarchy Is Problematic” 
• Stress-proof: How to Reduce Stress In Your 20s
• Porn and Masturbation: The Truth About Your Secret Guilty Pleasure
• Guilty Pleasures: 5 Steps To Overcome The Unnecessary Shame.
• The Value of Honesty In Friendships [10 Ways To Build It]
• Meditating With Music: How I Find The Inner Strength To Keep Going
• Is It True Nobody Likes You? [10 Tips To Fix That]
• Maybe You Need Less: Finding Meaning And Purpose Living A Minimalist Lifestyle
• 10 Ways To Effectively Deal With A Bad Roommate [And Make Them Respect You]
• How To 100% Be Yourself
• Self-Forgiveness: How to Heal and Move On From Your Mistakes
• What To Do When A Friend Is Ghosting You?
• Effects of Child Bullying: Healing From The Trauma
• The True Meaning of Patience:
• The Power of Acceptance: How To Change Your Circumstances By Embracing Them
• How To Apologize to a Friend (And Get Them To Forgive You)
• Morality Is A Social Construct: The Reason Nigeria Is So Religious, Yet So Corrupt
• How To Stop Worrying About Everything [5 Timeless Tips]
• Self-fulfilling Prophecy: 10 Steps To Using Your Beliefs To Make Things Happen
• 12 Rules For Friendship: How To Keep A Good Friendship Going Forever?
• Forget Others’ Ideas Of Career Success. Here Is How To Create Yours.
• 15 Practices That Will Help You Overcome Inferiority Complex
• What Really Controls Your Behaviour: 10 Ways To Develop and Strengthen A Healthy Ego.
• Religious Trauma: A Dark Side Of Religion [10 Steps To Overcome It]
• 7 Practical Steps To Overcome Envy and Achieve Your Success
• The Perfect Way To Answer The Question “Why Do You Love Me?”
• 7 Steps To Break Up With Your Partner Without Hurting Them
• How And Why You Should Follow The Crowd
• The Habit of Gratitude: How Practicing Gratitude Daily Changes Your Life
• 60 Big And Small Things To Be Grateful For Every Day [Even When Things Are Tough]
• Things to Do Before Getting Back With Your Ex: Tips on How to Talk to Them About It
• How To Get What You Want In Life: 7 Lessons From Elisha And The Widow’s Oil
• How To Find And Read Good Self-help Books:
• Friends With Benefits: The Truth About Having A Physically Intimate Relationship With A Friend
• Sharing Secrets With Friends: Why, When, and How To Share Sensitive Information.
• The Habit of Humility: How To Be Humble Without Selling Yourself Short
• 10 Books That May Change How You See The World And Yourself [W/ Summary, Discussion, and Big Ideas]
• How to Stop Lying: 10 Steps for Overcoming the Habit of Lying
• Resisting Money Obsession: 10 Steps to Appreciate Your True Value While Building A Meaningful Life  
• Askophobia: 5 Tips To Overcome Your Fear of Asking For What You Want
• Pistanthrophobia: Overcome Your Fear of Trusting Others With These 10 Tips
• Gain Confidence In Yourself With These 10 Tips
• 5 Ways To Prevent Betrayal From Friends
• Atelophobia: Conquer Your Fear of Imperfection with These 5 Tips
• How To Overcome  Shyness [And Attract People]
• 5 Reasons To End A Friendship [& 10 Ways to Effectively Do So]
• Build Intimacy In Friendship With These 10 Tips
• Ending Abusive Friendships: 3 Steps To Take When Communication Fails
• How To Build Social Connections (With 13 Conversation Ideas)
• 10 Steps For Resolving Conflicts With Your Friend
• Boundaries In Friendships: Why and How To Set Up and Enforce Healthy Boundaries. 
• The Authentic Self: How To Understand  And Be Your True Self.
• 23 Things Toxic Friends Do, and How To Cut Them Off
• Discipline For People Who Lack Self-Control And Strong Willpower:
• Freedom Anxiety: 10 Ways to Enjoy Your Freedom Without Anxiety 
• The Value of Personal Faith (And How To Develop It):
• 31 Ways To Strengthen Your Friendships (With Examples)
• Why Exposure to Different Perspectives Leads To Growth [And How To Become More Open-Minded]
• Trauma: How It Kills You [And How To Heal]
• Separation Anxiety In Young Adults [And 3 Ways To Overcome It]
• 10 Ways To Develop Self-Awareness as a Young Adult [The Beginner’s Guide]
• What Do You Truly Deserve? [And How To Get It]
• The Brutal Truth About Being Good: Ethical Dilemma
• Persistence: 11 Strategies for staying motivated and persistent in the face of challenges and setbacks
• Money Anxiety Explained [10 Ways To Overcome It And Find Financial Stability] 
• Love for Learning: Why It Matters and How to Cultivate It
• The Importance of Breaks in Achieving Long-Term Success and Happiness:
• How To Develop Your Meta Skills, And Unlock Your Hidden Potentials:
• 10 Benefits Of Consuming Educational Content [And 5 Ways To Effectively Do So]
• How To Ignite Your Creativity, Originality, And Profitable Well-being Through Curiosity.
• The Importance of Lifelong Learning
• Finding Harmony Within Chaos: 3 Steps to Resolve Your Internal Conflict.
• Self-image Internal Conflict [+5 Steps To Overcome It]
• 10 Steps To Build A Healthy Self-Image
• You’re a Product of Your Beliefs [This Is How To Ensure Your Beliefs Are True And Helpful].
• The Value of Integrity: 10 Benefits of Living a Life of Integrity (+8 Tips On How To Practise It)
• Don’t Waste 2023: 7 Reasons You Must Start Planning For Your Goals Immediately
• Honesty Is The Best Policy: 10 Benefits Of Being Honest And Truthful
• What Is The Truth
• Is Infatuation Real Love? 5 Ways To Identify And Control It
• 8 Tips To Deal With A Partner Who Lacks Compassion
• How Confirmation Bias Can Impact Your WorldView; And 4 Strategies To Overcome or Minimize it
• The Role Of Critical Thinking In Seeking The Truth. [+11 Critical Thinking Tools]
• Please Do Less: 4 Negative Consequences of Multitasking
• From Selfish to Selfless: How To Raise Compassionate Kids in Today’s World
• The Reasons You Should Worry About What Others Think of You
• 3 Dating Lessons I Learned From A Chef
• Do You Feel Stuck In a Phase In Life? [4 Tips To Get You Unstuck And Happy]
• Love Dilemma: How to Trust Your Gut and Make the Right Decision
• 25th Eulogy: Love, Trauma, Money, and WTF!!!
• Compassion For The Depressed: How To Respond To Someone Who Is Struggling
• Empathy Vs Compassion: The Dangers of Empathy And Why You Must Develop Compassion To Truly Help People
• Could There Be Answers To All Life’s Big Questions? [ 3 Steps In Resolving Existential Dilemma Or Dread ]
• When To Evade, Endure, or Seek Pain:
• I Like Reading Because…
• Unlock Your Creative Outlets With These 10 Questions to Beat Stress, Anxiety, & Depression (and Become Happier).
• How Little Littering Causes Titanic Flooding. [The Dark Side of Compounding]
• Is God Angry With You? (How To Resolve Your Religious Dilemma Through Self-Discovery)
• How To Be A Better Person [And Be Happy]:
• The Smell of Dead Bodies: The Hypocrisy in All of Us
• Are You at Moral Crossroads? [3 Steps to Resolve Ethical Conflicts]
• Why You Shouldn’t Listen to People’s Opinions and Advice: The Best Life Advice Ever
• How To Be A Good Person According To Jesus Christ:
• How Do You Deal With Intrapersonal Conflict?:
• What Does It Mean To Be A Good Person?
• What If There Is No Such Thing As A Bad Person?
• Feeling Reluctant Again? Here Is How To Be More Spontaneous, Every Day:
• Dear Introvert Friend: (Why And) How To Connect With People You Don’t Know, Easily
• How Do You Give Something Without Expecting Anything Back (Yet Get More Than You Gave)?
• Are You A People Pleaser? [+ How To Stop Being Too Nice In 3 Simple Steps]
• 10 Reasons Why It Matter To Tell Your Story [+ 10 Simple Storytelling Formulas/Structures With Examples]
• Why We Must Be Grateful To Society (Even When It Is Not Perfect)
• How To  Be Independent Of Your Parents/Guardian 
• Why Are We Talking About Mental Health (In Nigeria)?
• 2 Humble Truths About Success; And 4 Unusual Steps To Lead A Successful Life
• What Is Emotional Intelligence And How To Develop It (In 4 Steps)?
• Why You Should Pray [+ 3 Steps To Getting An Answer Almost Every Time]
• Stop Chasing, Start Attracting: This May Be The Secret To Getting What You Want
• Why I Don’t Believe In Prayer Anymore:
• Suffering Is A Bridge; My Thoughts On Suffering
• The Reason You Doubt Yourself [How To Identify And Get Over Imposter Syndrome]
• A-Z Thinking: How To Make The Best Decision For Yourself
• Why You Must Stop Giving Advice And Start Telling Your Journey Stories [Why Is Storytelling So Powerful?]
• Imagine Life Is A Game (And Everyone Is Watching You Play):
• How Planning And Scheduling Keeps You Happy
• 3 Weird Lessons (From Observing Kids) That May Unlock Your Dream Life.
• See Clearly: How To Recognize, Understand, and Respond to Your Perception Biases
• Become An Anomaly: Why Not Everyone Can Be Successful [And How To Stop Being Like Everyone]
• How You Procrastinate In Your Life: The 5 Types Of Procrastinators And Why They Procrastinate
• Attention Management: 4 Ways To Clear Your Mind From Distractions And Information Overload
• I Swallowed An Insect [How To Become More Acceptable Despite Your Flaws And Imperfections]
• 6 Tips To Help You Develop Self-Motivation And Initiative
• Are You Stuck In A Rut? [5 Tips To Help You Get Through Tough Times, And Emerge A Better You]
• Love Is Not Enough [When/Why Love Alone Is Not Enough]
• Jungle Justice [Another Untold Story]
• How Building A Personal Brand On Social Media Improves Your Life [And 3 Important Steps To Begin With]
• Why Reputation Matters [And How To Build A Good Reputation In Business]
• Let It Go: How To Break Free From Perfectionism And Be Happier In Life
• Let It Slide: How To Stop Correcting People All The Time [Yet Get Them To Change]
• Gamophobia: The Fear Of Commitment [And How To Overcome It]
• Best Advice For Young People: Determine Your Future
• How Do You Get Better At Your Craft (And Make Money From It)?
• Overcoming Survivorship Bias: Why Is Creating Your Own Path Important?
• How Do You Begin To Love Yourself When You Hate Your Body? [A Story Of A Lady Who Struggled To Love Herself]
• 7 Simple Ways To Make Other People Feel Important Every Day
• How Can Courage Change Your Life? [Lessons From The Fearless Vikings]
• Aim High? How High Expectations Can Cause Anxiety, Disappointment, Depression, And Suicide
• What Is The Best Form Of Punishment For A Child?
• How Do You Betray Yourself? [21 Ways You Betray Yourself Daily]
• Death Anxiety In 20s: Why You Shouldn’t Fear Death, And How To Cure Thanatophobia.
• How Can I Deal With Procrastination? [5 Quick Tips To Help You Get Off Your Ass]
• What Are The Types Of Luck? [How To Get Luckier In Life]
• What Are You Watching? [Why You Need “Attention Diet” And How To Start]
• Does It Matter To Believe In Yourself? [Why Believing In Yourself Is The First Step To Success]
• How Does Self-love Change Your Life?
• 8 Simple Ways To Build, Improve, And Regain Your Self-Confidence
• Why Is It Important To Not Give Up On Yourself – [5 Inspiring Reasons]
• How Do You Cure Lack Of Self Worth? [How To Know My Self Worth]
• You Are More Than A Body; [How To Never Die In Real Life]
• Ikigai; And What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Do InYour Life?
• What Makes You Special As A Person?
• Wasted Away: Why Am I So Afraid Of Success? [4 Things You Must Do To Overcome Success Anxiety Before It Ruins Your Life]
• 24th Eulogy (Truth And Discipline)
• How To Live Happily: A Short Book About Living A Happy, And A Meaningful Life
• The Bad Success: Do You Have To Be Evil To Be Successful?
• How Loneliness Kills And How To Overcome It
• THE KAIZEN PRINCIPLE: The Secret To Staying One Move Ahead In Life
• 6 Reasons Why Chasing Success Sucks [Do This Instead]
• HAVE YOU SUCCEEDED LATELY?
• THE 5 LAWS OF HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS – [Rules for healthy relationships]
• THE 5 LEVELS OF RELATIONSHIPS 
• 4 STEPS TO BECOME CONFIDENT WHEN YOU ARE NOT
• HOW TO MAKE EVERYONE LIKE YOU INSTANTLY AND DO WHATEVER YOU WANT [Just Like Jesus Christ]
• BEYOND INTELLIGENCE
• PLEASE HAVE THE DECENCY – A Short Essay On Gratitude
• WHY YOU NEED TO TALK TO YOUR PARENTS MORE OFTEN
• How To Kiss Someone You Love In 7 Steps [+ 7 Parallel Life Lessons From Kissing Romantically]
• YOU CAN BREAK ANY ADDICTION FOREVER [USING THE SIMPLE 4-STEP SLEDGEHAMMER METHOD]
• I KISSED A GIRL I DIDN’T LOVE [what is love for 20 years olds]
• 5 YEARS IN SCHOOL [hope you don’t make this mistake]
• HOW TO FIND THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE [without chasing, using pickup lines, or implementing any complicated tactics or gimmicks]
• 22 LESSONS ABOUT MONEY FOR 20 YEARS OLDS – Why You Must Not Chase Money
• WHENEVER I’M TIRED – why I take so long in the bathroom [meditations from the toilet]
• HOW LAUGHTER CHANGES YOUR WORLD [Why you must laugh daily]
• KILLING YOUR BOREDOM – How To Never Be Bored Again
• FOR GOD’S SAKE – How You Can Help And Improve Humanity Today
• 4.939 BILLION OF YOU ARE RICH [what is more important than money in life?]
• How To Make Girls Beg To Be With You – [Your Crush May Get Jealous If You Don’t Pick Her]
• MOTIVATIONAL QUOTES ARE HARMING YOU [the problem with listening to motivational speakers/quotes]
• The 23rd Birthday – A Personal Living Eulogy of Dick David
• THIS THING CALLED INTELLIGENCE – The Most Powerful Ability in The World, And the Risk We Now Face for Losing Dominance Over It [TO ARTIFICIAL INTELLIGENCE]
•  DATAISM – The New Gods and religion of humanity
• How To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams Through Social Media
• A CURE FOR SUICIDE – why people kill themselves and how to overcome suicidal thoughts
• My Phone Is My Best Friend – Social Media tips for individuals
• Why she/he asks “do you love me?” Constantly [what to do]
• How to Live with a Roommate – 8 simple tips
• In the Image of God (Reflection on the Nature of God and Humans)
• How to Stop Procrastinating
• How I changed my lifestyle Completely (The 1 secret)
• YOU DON’T NEED TROPHIES [HOW TO MAKE IT IN LIFE AS A YOUTH]
• One Lesson From The Odds
• How To Deal with Pain – in 5 Steps
• Life lessons from Mia Khalifa
• 40 Things King Solomon Thought about Life
• What Is Confirmation Bias? (Why You Must Question Your Questions)
• Why Self Discipline Is Important In Our Life [and a Few Secrets to Unlock it]
• How To Harness Your Demon Powers And More Productive Like Beyoncé
• Words and Emotions (how to understand people on a deeper level)
• How To Be An Asshole in 15 Simple Steps
• Peer Pressure And How To Use It To Your Advantage
• The Friendzone (If you get frinedzoned, do this)
• 4 Funny Reasons You Got Friendzoned
• Rising Above A Corrupt World (with emphasis on Nigeria)
• SEX – what to know before your first time having sex
• HOW TO STAY HAPPY
• TOP 3 SKILLS YOU MUST LEARN TO LIVE A GOOD LIFE
• HUMANS AND MONEY-the role of money in society/world
• HOW TO BREAK BAD HABITS
• WHY IS IT WRONG TO JUDGE – the grey line before laws
• 5 SIMPLE STEPS TO CALM AN ANGRY PERSON
• IS THERE REALLY GOOD AND EVIL?
• LEARNING NEVER ENDS
• How to Get a Girlfriend: 10 Steps Guide To Finding The Right Girl
• YOUR PARENTS ARE WRONG, BUT SO ARE YOU [EXPERIENCE is not the best teacher]
• HOW TO CULTIVATE THE HABIT OF READING and enjoying it
• HOW TO GET PEOPLE TO LIKE YOU INSTANTLY
• HOW TO PREDICT YOUR FUTURE
• HOW TO DEAL WITH IMPULSIVE BEHAVIOUR
• INSANE SECRETS I LEARNT ON NEW YEAR DAY FROM A RICH DAD
• Should I Go to College or Work? [the truth about it all]
• YOU CAN NEVER REALLY FAIL
• WHY SHOULD WE OBEY THE LAW (a guide to personal values and how they affect humanity)
• FEELING SUICIDAL?-why people kill themselves
• 6 Good Things We Can Learn From Satan
• HOW TO STAND BY YOUR WORDS-decision making made sexy
• HOW TO NEVER FORGET ANYTHING AGAIN-embracing   weakness for strength
• HOW TO GET PEOPLE TO TRUST YOU?
• It’s My Birthday, But It’s Also World’s AIDS Day
• HOW TO COME FIRST IN CLASS
• How To Make Friends As A Young Adult?