The world is moving at such a fast pace, with every added year it seems the speed doubles. I didn’t learn how to read and write early, I actually struggled with reciting the 24 alphabets of the English language even at my primary school level, I can’t vividly remember but I think I beat that milestone around my primary two

next was my inability to read; Honesty, dictation exercises were the worst for me back then, I felt like covering myself with my school bag and disappearing into the thin air. However, thanks to the efforts of the really nice NYSC staffs that came to serve in my school, I was able to beat that challenge in just about an academic term (or two, don’t blame me, its been long). Fast forward to my Primary 4 and 5 , you would meet a boy who always made it to the top three students in class, it basically continued this way even till my secondary school, and right now in the university my Grade point is actually seating at a comfortable second class upper(not too bad for an easily distracted boy like me)

The point is, life is pretty much like this, if you’ve noticed I didn’t mention anything about my grades when I hadn’t mastered the skill of reading and writing, this is because there is basically nothing to show for. Life works this way, until certain skills have been acquired/mastered there is really no need competing or comparing, it is futile and would only end in anger and bitterness.

Guess what happens when a big company comes to a community and can’t find a single educated youth, of course they outsource but we all know what happens next-vandalization

You must learn these following skills if you don’t want to end up being a pain in the butt to the world at large, plus you also get paid and would end up happy

THE THREE SKILLS FOR A GOOD LIFE

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  1. FINANCIAL SKILLS
  2. EMOTIONAL MATURITY
  3. SOCIAL SKILLS

Bonus: READING AND WRITING

So lets begin

FINANCIAL SKILLS

This one is very essential, I don’t think I need to hype the importance of this skill, it is really the only skill that separates the rich from the poor. even if you lack the other skills, this single skill has the potential of getting you as much material things as you want, but I can’t say much about your emotional or spiritual well being

It is basically about understanding how money works and how to make the most of this dynamic. No doubt the number one place to get the best and tested advice for this skill is in the book “RICH DAD POOR DAD” by Robert T. Kiyosaki.

Let me give you a hint of what this is about, it basically emphasises that you should avoid anything that consumes your money(lets say that 10k watch) and you should rather focus on things that get you more money ( a good example would be paying to learn a skill that you can cash out later or maybe even investing in a promising business with that 10k)

However, if you would love to hear these instructions from a prehistoric man named Arkad then you should probably check out the book “THE RICHEST MAN IN BABYLON” by George S. Clason. The book borders on clearing your debt and making your own money work for you, a term you would come to understand better as you start your journey on the path of financial education

And finally on this section, if you are okay with strong language, the more modern way of saying things, and love watching hours of YouTube content , then I suggest you check out “Dan Lok” and “GaryVee”, just search their names on you tube , you would receive tons upon tons of advice that could get you rolling

EMOTIONAL MATURITY

Before you start your lessons in this aspect of life, I just want to tell you that this particular skill requires honesty, you must to be honest with yourself then to others. Most people never develop this skill, it’s the reason so many things are going wrong in the society. For a start, why do people argue?, if right and wrong were so clearly defined , why don’t every person just see this and do what’s right?.  It has to do with you knowing yourself and being able to put yourself in other people’s shoes. With this skill you are sure to enjoy life despite its chaos and uncertainties.

The kind of books that teach this skill are called “self help books”. So I’ll give you a list. all the books listed here are books I’ve personally read and have found helpful

  1. “You are a Badass” by Jen Sincero
  2. “the subtle art of not giving a fuck” by Mark Manson
  3. “Rejection Proof” by Jia Jiang
  4. “Mindfulness” by Ellen J. Langer
  5. “Laws of Human Nature” by Robert Green

If you love reading blogs instead then check out

  1. Zenhabits.net
  2. Markmanson.net
  3. Tiny buddhah

Those are my top three but if you want more check out this article on medium (click here)

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SOCIAL SKILLS

This has to do with your ability to interact with the people around you. This is one of the hardest skills I had to learn, and I’m still learning. Almost as important as financial skill, this skill would help you get to the top in whatever place you find yourself.

The truth is social skill is as important as your certificate, maybe even better. you just cant do without it, remember the scientist call humans “social animals”. To get you started, I’ll also make a list of my most recommended books

  1. “How to win friends and influence people” by Dale Carnegie; it’s a very nice book, with lots of real life examples, this book is sure to open your eyes to how great men are born
  2. “48 Laws of Power” by Robert Green; the knowledge in this book is almost dark, unsettling and true. with countless examples of how things can go wrong or right if you do or don’t do certain things. This book usually succeeds in getting me moody every time I open it, but its totally worth it
  3. “phycology of persuasion” by Robert B. Cialdini; I just thought maybe you should know about this book, really, you must know what’s inside of this book the name alone should be persuading enough

And finally

READING AND WRITING

This skill is ignored, its funny how the rise of the internet and the onslaught of the social medias got us exposed to a plethora of information yet very few people actually get to the sweet spots

Most times people use auto correct options and others simply ignore spellings and go for abbreviations, this is really disturbing, and you shouldn’t take path in this craze. If you wish to develop reading and writing skill, I recommend you visit the following blogs as much as you can.

  1. The Write Life
  2. Writer’s Digest
  3. Write to Done
  4. The Write Practice
  5. Count Blogula by Jenna Moreci
  6. The Creative Penn
  7. Terribleminds by Chuck Wendig
  8. Daily Writing Tips
  9. Better Novel Project
  10. Well-Storied
  11. Shayla Raquel.

i also recomend you read books, click here for more

 

CONCLUSION

i really dont know what to say here,

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just make sure you develop yourself, like Oscar Wilde said

The aim of life is self-development.To realize ones nature perfectly- that is what each of us is here for


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