There is a mathematical reason most people never marry their crush or soulmate. And that reason is called the Stable Marriage Problem. Way back in 1962, two mathematicians named David Gale and Lloyd Shapley proved that in any matchmaking scenario, for there to be stability—where participants are not “cheating” or “breaking up”—the participants must compromise. … Read more
Have you ever been in a room where people sort of just romanticise their local culture, affirming things like masquerades and bride prices during marriages? How about where people attack what they perceive as Westernisation, frowning at things like LGBTQ+ rights, as well as birth through Caesarean section?
If you met me a few years ago, I would think for a moment and say, I am not one of those people, I prefer the Western culture over our local African culture.
But that would be inaccurate.
Most of the time, we suffer because we seek the attainment, without realising that it is not really where the treasure lies.
People seeking to attain something – be it a state of being, achievement, or object – often miss the point. It is like seeking to get to the northernmost point on a sphere. As we trace the path northwards, we only end up where we began.
Most people look at “successful people” and assume they would be happier and satisfied if they too were “successful” at whatever the “successful people” were “successful” at. But for many people, the more successful they get, the more angst they feel. Why? Because one thing success does is reveal the possibility of more success. So, … Read more
A few months ago, conversations erupted on social media after a Nigerian lady died due to complications from a failed Brazilian butt lift (BBL) surgery. Some people argued a woman has the right to improve her looks, some called the surgery vain and reckless, while others turned it into a moral issue, either attacking men … Read more
Our thoughts don’t originate from us. Like water in the water cycle, thoughts flow into us, marinate, and flow back out in a circle of ideas. And like water, thoughts give life to our being. Our thoughts make us who we are — successful or unsuccessful, happy or unhappy, good or bad. So it matters … Read more
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Often, it is the courage of people to be their full selves — no matter how ridiculous, weird, or frustrating it gets — that has led to many of the amazing people and things we know and rely on today.
What these people share is not genius in the conventional sense. They are what some would call polymaths — people who draw from multiple disciplines, interests, and lived experiences to create something the world has no easy category for.
You want to glow up—to become 10X more attractive, sexier, and more admirable. You want to be “hot.” But what does it even mean to be hot?
Think about it, who is the hottest person you know, and why do you think they are hot?
The counter-argument that “everyone has flaws, and so we must not judge” is an idea I intend to break through the rest of this piece, not just because it justifies the corruption eating up Africa, but because it’s a psychological trick called “moral disengagement”—where people use nice-sounding phrases to avoid acknowledging evil. It’s how someone says, “like him or hate him, you have to respect his hustle or doings” while ignoring that the “hustle” or “Doings” is theft and the “hate” exists because he’s destroying lives.
Purpose is often treated like a luxury or ultimate goal, yet it is essential and foundational for a deliberate and meaningful life.
Without purpose, intensity is diluted, experiences feel shallow, and in the end, everything feels like a waste of time.
