My dad died in 2021, and I haven’t had a moment of despair. I haven’t even been able to shed a tear, perhaps because I don’t think he is fully gone. When I was much younger, we watched a lot…
You know, there are people who not only endure, but are prolific at jumping from one toxic relationship to the next. People who endure insults, cheating, and even being beaten. But what the hell is wrong with us who have…
People try very hard to change: Some change their sect or religion. Some change their wall paint or address. Some use cosmetics or get surgery. Perhaps you too have tried to change one way or another. I know I have.…
A friend forwarded me three troubling videos. In the videos, a woman was filming herself having sex with children. The children were said to be hers — making it both paedophilia and incest. She kept looking at the camera, soliciting…
Can a person truly change who they are — not just their looks, location, or outlook but their identity? The answer is yes. But the process is not always dramatic, smooth, or instant. It doesn’t happen because of some mind-shifting…
There is a mathematical reason most people never marry their crush or soulmate. And that reason is called the Stable Marriage Problem. Way back in 1962, two mathematicians named David Gale and Lloyd Shapley proved that in any matchmaking scenario,…
Have you ever been in a room where people sort of just romanticise their local culture, affirming things like masquerades and bride prices during marriages? How about where people attack what they perceive as Westernisation, frowning at things like LGBTQ+ rights, as well as birth through Caesarean section?
If you met me a few years ago, I would think for a moment and say, I am not one of those people, I prefer the Western culture over our local African culture.
But that would be inaccurate.
Most of the time, we suffer because we seek the attainment, without realising that it is not really where the treasure lies.
People seeking to attain something – be it a state of being, achievement, or object – often miss the point. It is like seeking to get to the northernmost point on a sphere. As we trace the path northwards, we only end up where we began.
Most people look at “successful people” and assume they would be happier and satisfied if they too were “successful” at whatever the “successful people” were “successful” at. But for many people, the more successful they get, the more angst they…
A few months ago, conversations erupted on social media after a Nigerian lady died due to complications from a failed Brazilian butt lift (BBL) surgery. Some people argued a woman has the right to improve her looks, some called the…
