“I believe in God, but not as one thing, not as an old man in the sky. I believe that what people call God is something in all of us. I believe that what Jesus and Mohammed and Buddha and all the rest said was right. It’s just that the translations have gone wrong.” – John Lennon
People try very hard to change: Some change their sect or religion. Some change their wall paint or address. Some use cosmetics or get surgery. Perhaps you too have tried to change one way or another. I know I have.…
A friend forwarded me three troubling videos. In the videos, a woman was filming herself having sex with children. The children were said to be hers — making it both paedophilia and incest. She kept looking at the camera, soliciting…
Can a person truly change who they are — not just their looks, location, or outlook but their identity? The answer is yes. But the process is not always dramatic, smooth, or instant. It doesn’t happen because of some mind-shifting…
Have you ever been in a room where people sort of just romanticise their local culture, affirming things like masquerades and bride prices during marriages? How about where people attack what they perceive as Westernisation, frowning at things like LGBTQ+ rights, as well as birth through Caesarean section?
If you met me a few years ago, I would think for a moment and say, I am not one of those people, I prefer the Western culture over our local African culture.
But that would be inaccurate.
If you had asked me a few years ago what makes life meaningful, I would have told you: To marry the love of your life, nurture your kids together, and do the work that fulfils you.
None of those values has changed. Though for a long time I always saw death as an enemy of those things. However, I have started to see that death doesn't necessarily threaten a meaningful life. It makes it.
Most people look at “successful people” and assume they would be happier and satisfied if they too were “successful” at whatever the “successful people” were “successful” at. But for many people, the more successful they get, the more angst they…
You want to glow up—to become 10X more attractive, sexier, and more admirable. You want to be "hot." But what does it even mean to be hot?
Think about it, who is the hottest person you know, and why do you think they are hot?
The counter-argument that "everyone has flaws, and so we must not judge" is an idea I intend to break through the rest of this piece, not just because it justifies the corruption eating up Africa, but because it's a psychological trick called "moral disengagement"—where people use nice-sounding phrases to avoid acknowledging evil. It's how someone says, "like him or hate him, you have to respect his hustle or doings" while ignoring that the "hustle" or “Doings” is theft and the "hate" exists because he's destroying lives.
When we look at Western countries, envy and anger often collide within us.
Envy because we wish we’d been born under winter snow, where quality of life is high, opportunities are bountiful, and systems actually work. And anger because we resent being here instead—in Africa, under the heat of the Sahara—where life feels backwards, a constant struggle to move forward, with uncertainty slowly draining hope out of us.
Still, many of us fail to be aware or maybe don't see it relevant to remember that the West wasn't always "Advanced” or enviable.
Purpose is often treated like a luxury or ultimate goal, yet it is essential and foundational for a deliberate and meaningful life.
Without purpose, intensity is diluted, experiences feel shallow, and in the end, everything feels like a waste of time.
