“I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.” ― Oscar Wilde
There is a mathematical reason most people never marry their crush or soulmate. And that reason is called the Stable Marriage Problem. Way back in 1962, two mathematicians named David Gale and Lloyd Shapley proved that in any matchmaking scenario,…
If you had asked me a few years ago what makes life meaningful, I would have told you: To marry the love of your life, nurture your kids together, and do the work that fulfils you.
None of those values has changed. Though for a long time I always saw death as an enemy of those things. However, I have started to see that death doesn't necessarily threaten a meaningful life. It makes it.
You want to glow up—to become 10X more attractive, sexier, and more admirable. You want to be "hot." But what does it even mean to be hot?
Think about it, who is the hottest person you know, and why do you think they are hot?
those who talk about their pain, who express their frustrations or ask for help are seen as weak, fragile, or lacking in character.
And so, many of us are socially compelled to zip our lips, even when our whole being is itching to scream.
Social media has become deeply intertwined with the human experience that opting out feels like social suicide. The pressure to show up doesn't just feel cultural, but existential.
And for those of us looking to grow our brand or business, showing up is not enough – we need to grow. Yet, in trying to grow, we tend to follow the same playbook:
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This felt like the fastest year of my life so far. It genuinely felt like this was still part of last year. At a point, I couldn't tell what happened this year from what happened last year.
While my last year's eulogy ended in what felt like a divine script, this year felt like a violent ripping apart of that script by indifferent reality.
I saw the movie Straw last month. And I was so angry at the critics that I started to fear for myself: How could a message so clear, loud, and urgent be so completely missed?
Straw is a very simple movie. It wasn't like a Christopher Nolan film with layers of twists and hidden meanings. It was a straightforward Tyler Perry movie that depicted the unfolding of a horrible day in a woman's life.
And even if it is mostly fiction, it's important to remember that nothing in this movie is impossible, or hasn't in some way happened to a very real person somewhere.
Many years ago, I took the bold step of moving out of my parents’ house to live alone. Why? Because I wanted to find my path as a person, make my own decisions, and suffer the consequences myself. I believed…
Yesterday, on my way from work, I passed a boutique and instinctively started looking for something my wife would love. Next to it was another boutique that sold menswear; interestingly, I walked past without even glancing. Then it hit me: almost everything I buy these days is for her, not me. Not because she asks. Not because I have to. But because I want to. That's what love does: it redirects your focus without effort. That's why I believe: if love feels like effort, something is wrong.
Laziness keeps many people stuck at a particular level in their lives. Not because they lack the ability to move forward, but because they postpone action when it matters most.
But here's the hard truth: staying stuck and doing nothing because of laziness has a cost: It will keep you in the same place, day after day, while life quietly passes by.
