happiness

The Journey To Becoming: My 2024 Living Eulogy

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Dick David holding an art portrait of David Ifeanyi

They have always tried to reveal themselves to me in fragments, but my own expectations have often warped my interpretation of their intentions. I’ve seen them as malevolent at times, and indifferent at others. But this year, I guess I was able to see that it was all beyond good and bad, and about shaping me into someone better.

Build Deeper Connections With People With These 5 Tips

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Connecting with someone transcends merely knowing superficial details about them or having their contacts. It’s about dissolving the line between you and them, so that their emotions and thoughts become an integral part of your consciousness, and their actions become well-understood and even appreciated. When you connect with someone, you feel their joys and sorrows as viscerally as if they emanated from within you.

How To Stop Feeling Like You’re Falling Behind In Life?

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Ever scroll through social media and feel like everyone’s winning except you? I know that surreal feeling of watching time and your peers fly by. They’re getting married, having kids, leaving the country – achieving all the “adulting” milestones.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m genuinely thrilled for them (whether they are my friends or strangers … Read more

How To Be Happy Amidst Constant Challenges In Life.

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We’re often inclined to think we will be happy once we get something, somewhere, or overcome a challenge. But, like a mirage, that bias is only an illusion that gets us racing forward and onward. Whilst this is good for making “progress” in life, it can quickly turn into a formula for unhappiness.  How To … Read more

Forget Others’ Ideas Of Career Success. Here Is How To Create Yours.

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The traditional definition of career success is often based on external factors, such as making a lot of money or getting a high-status job. However, these factors are not always relevant to our individual needs and desires. In fact, trying to achieve success based on these external factors can lead to discontentment, anxiety, and confusion. I know this, because I used to be that typical young Nigerian who cared too much about what others thought…

Religious Trauma: A Dark Side Of Religion [10 Steps To Overcome It]

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There is a lot of good that comes with religion – from the laid down beliefs and morals which give us a sense of purpose and direction in life, down to the community and systems in place that provide support religion can serve critical roles in our lives. However, religion is prone to becoming harmful – to the point of traumatising its members. 

The Habit of Gratitude: How Practicing Gratitude Daily Changes Your Life

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Our minds are built to focus on problems – the excess salt, negative comment, and bad news. This is not a bad thing, as it helps us tackle the problems in our lives. But being fixated on the negative leads to unhappiness.

Without intentionally refocusing our minds on the sunny side of things, we might end up thinking our entire world is dark and gloomy, whilst, in fact, the full picture is heartwarmingly bright and colourful with a few patches of grey.

60 Big And Small Things To Be Grateful For Every Day [Even When Things Are Tough]

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It is easy to find yourself engulfed by hate, dread, or regret as you complain, fear, or reminisce about something bad in the present, future, or past. Whilst those responses and reactions are natural and normal, they are not always productive or healthy for you.

You might have been told about the many benefits of gratitude, and how the habit of gratitude changes your life, but still find yourself struggling to think of things to be grateful for.