It’s hard to make real friends as adults. Everyone seems busy with their own problems and ambitions. Shared fun times are replaced with new goals, responsibilities, and pressures. Some good friends even move to different cities or countries, making it tough to keep in touch and foster bonds. Consequently, we look for and accept relationships … Read more
Imagine solving all your money problems: food, clothing, shelter, healthcare, education, with extra for enjoyable activities like vacations, yacht cruises, and endless shopping. Then what? *** In 1997, at just 27, Matt Damon won an Oscar for Best Screenplay for “Good Will Hunting.” Later, while sitting on his sofa and staring at the award, a … Read more
As social beings, we often desire to connect with others, even when we don’t have much in common. We like it when people like us; even those little hearts, shares, and comments on a social media post give us an immense feeling of joy – a feeling of belonging. Sometimes we don’t even know why … Read more
Pain exists. You can’t wish it away. It visits in many ways – getting sick, losing loved ones, having a breakup, getting fired, or even small daily annoyances like traffic, spilt drinks, misplaced keys, or a stubbed thumb. However, it is how we interpret and respond to these pains that determine whether they lead to … Read more
Almost everyone did this as kids: Pointing at siblings or friends as the reason for breaking dishes or misplacing books, to avoid getting in trouble. Sadly, for many people, not much has changed as adults, including in romantic relationships. They dread admitting when they’re wrong. This could be, to save face. Other times, it’s a … Read more
Growing older is like climbing a steep hill. At some points it gets so hard, you become tired and feel like giving up. At those points, having people around to support and encourage you can be very helpful. Sometimes, all you really need is someone to confide in. However, not everyone should be confided in. … Read more
One idea that caused a Jupiter-sized change in me was the concept of “Memento Mori” (Latin for “Remember you must die”). I first encountered the ideas in Ryan Holiday’s book “Ego is the Enemy”. The subject might sound pessimistic and unpleasant for most people, but it helped me develop a personal philosophy of how to … Read more
If you don’t ask her, how would you know?
Asking brings clarity. Yet it doesn’t guarantee certainty.
And most times the uncertainty is the scariest part. I mean the anxiety of not knowing what she would say or do. What if she says yes? What if her friends discourage her? What if things get awkward?
It was almost midnight as I scrolled through Facebook. I stumbled upon her profile: she looked intelligent, driven, and possessed a calming aura. I sent a friend request, and we connected. Time went by, we got to know more about ourselves, and our friendship bloomed. Soon, it morphed into love. We shared struggles, secrets, fears, … Read more
Valentine’s Day, often painted with shades of red and roses, can seem like a one-size-fits-all affair. But, a truly special day goes beyond heart-shaped chocolates, drinks and pairs of underwear. Making Valentine’s special for him is about understanding him deeply and crafting an experience that resonates with his unique personality, interests, and desires.
