“Like anything worth doing in life, happiness takes time and patience and consistency.” – Mark Manson
A friend forwarded me three troubling videos. In the videos, a woman was filming herself having sex with children. The children were said to be hers — making it both paedophilia and incest. She kept looking at the camera, soliciting…
Can a person truly change who they are — not just their looks, location, or outlook but their identity? The answer is yes. But the process is not always dramatic, smooth, or instant. It doesn’t happen because of some mind-shifting…
There is a mathematical reason most people never marry their crush or soulmate. And that reason is called the Stable Marriage Problem. Way back in 1962, two mathematicians named David Gale and Lloyd Shapley proved that in any matchmaking scenario,…
WhatsApp Status has an option called Hide. It makes sure new status updates from specific people on your contact list stop showing up on your status feed. I use it often, as I don’t necessarily want to block or cut…
Have you ever been in a room where people sort of just romanticise their local culture, affirming things like masquerades and bride prices during marriages? How about where people attack what they perceive as Westernisation, frowning at things like LGBTQ+ rights, as well as birth through Caesarean section?
If you met me a few years ago, I would think for a moment and say, I am not one of those people, I prefer the Western culture over our local African culture.
But that would be inaccurate.
If you had asked me a few years ago what makes life meaningful, I would have told you: To marry the love of your life, nurture your kids together, and do the work that fulfils you.
None of those values has changed. Though for a long time I always saw death as an enemy of those things. However, I have started to see that death doesn't necessarily threaten a meaningful life. It makes it.
Cultural provocateurs are the whetstone. And like the whetstone, they challenge not to destroy but to sharpen. Scraping away rust. Exposing dull edges. Asking the uncomfortable questions that the majority would rather avoid. Every society that has moved forward has needed people willing to do this.
Most people look at “successful people” and assume they would be happier and satisfied if they too were “successful” at whatever the “successful people” were “successful” at. But for many people, the more successful they get, the more angst they…
Our thoughts don’t originate from us. Like water in the water cycle, thoughts flow into us, marinate, and flow back out in a circle of ideas. And like water, thoughts give life to our being. Our thoughts make us who…
You want to glow up—to become 10X more attractive, sexier, and more admirable. You want to be "hot." But what does it even mean to be hot?
Think about it, who is the hottest person you know, and why do you think they are hot?
