“The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we never give enough of is love.” – Henry Miller.
Many times I have been called selfish for putting myself before others. I used to feel wounded by such remarks, but not anymore. This is because I’ve learned to love myself, rather than trying to please others in hopes of being loved. When I think back on my journey to self-love, one memory stands out. … Read more
Back in the day, there was this girl in our neighbourhood who turned heads. She became the “ass-pirations” of most dudes at the time. Long story short, she was the talk of the town. And she loved spending time with me. The company of her and her crew was delightful. They swarmed around me, much … Read more
We’re often inclined to think we will be happy once we get something, somewhere, or overcome a challenge. But, like a mirage, that bias is only an illusion that gets us racing forward and onward. Whilst this is good for making “progress” in life, it can quickly turn into a formula for unhappiness. How To … Read more
I am Dick David. As is my tradition, I am reviewing my life this year (2023) in a self-written living eulogy. I hope you enjoy it and also find it helpful. *** I felt like Sisyphus for most of this year. Sisyphus is a figure from Greek mythology who is condemned to endlessly push a … Read more
Earlier this year, in February, the internet broke over the Vogue Cover photo of Rihanna, with a serious and confident expression, leading A$AP Rocky by the hand, their baby cradled in his arms as he affectionately kissed the child’s forehead. The composition of the image bears a notable resemblance to the African Renaissance Monument, albeit … Read more
Once upon a time, a friend had a crush on a lady I was having a secret affair with. I didn’t tell him because she didn’t want anyone to know, and I didn’t trust him to understand. He was head over heels in love, and I was trapped between betraying her and being honest. I … Read more
The desire to be liked is instinctive. We, as a species, evolved to pay attention to what other people think about us because in the wild we needed them – to like us – to survive. Even today, you still need people to like you to survive. So, worrying if you are liked or not … Read more
Earlier this year, at the beginning of the academic session at the university, I applied for a space in the hostel and was allocated a room. I was quite hopeful for the new session and looked forward to meeting my new roommates. As anticipated, I had very nice roommates. Except, unfortunately, for my bunkmate, Annie, … Read more
I saw a meme a few days ago where a porcupine was admiring the smoothness of a snake. The porcupine said, “I hate these spikes. I wish I had her body”. Then, in the next frame, the smooth-skinned snake was picked up and carried away by an eagle. Seeing this, the porcupine said, “Thank you … Read more
It is normal to think that you were ghosted because of your fault – maybe something you said (or didn’t say), did (or didn’t do), or lacked (or owned). But, just like rejection, ghosting actually has more to do with the other person than it does with you. Yes, you might have actually said, done, or lacked something, but it was still the person’s decision to cut you off without even giving any reason.
