“The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we never give enough of is love.” – Henry Miller.
Late last year, I realised I was feeling undervalued, used, and even disrespected by my friends, even though none of them had done anything specific to warrant those feelings. It was my own unmet expectations for constant calls, support, and appreciation that were causing this internal conflict. However, at the time, I lacked awareness of … Read more
Did you choose what turns you on or did you simply find yourself attracted to it? When I was a kid, I ran around the neighbourhood naked. The adults and older kids sometimes chuckled and asked me to put on some clothes. With time, as I matured, I understood and felt self-motivated to put on … Read more
Sometime last year, a friend I hadn’t seen for years came to visit their sibling in a town close to where I was staying. And, I happened to also have something to do in that town, so, we decided that a meet-up would be great. Well, the day came, I was in the city. But, … Read more
Many times I have been called selfish for putting myself before others. I used to feel wounded by such remarks, but not anymore. This is because I’ve learned to love myself, rather than trying to please others in hopes of being loved. When I think back on my journey to self-love, one memory stands out. … Read more
Back in the day, there was this girl in our neighbourhood who turned heads. She became the “ass-pirations” of most dudes at the time. Long story short, she was the talk of the town. And she loved spending time with me. The company of her and her crew was delightful. They swarmed around me, much … Read more
We’re often inclined to think we will be happy once we get something, somewhere, or overcome a challenge. But, like a mirage, that bias is only an illusion that gets us racing forward and onward. Whilst this is good for making “progress” in life, it can quickly turn into a formula for unhappiness. How To … Read more
I am Dick David. As is my tradition, I am reviewing my life this year (2023) in a self-written living eulogy. I hope you enjoy it and also find it helpful. *** I felt like Sisyphus for most of this year. Sisyphus is a figure from Greek mythology who is condemned to endlessly push a … Read more
Earlier this year, in February, the internet broke over the Vogue Cover photo of Rihanna, with a serious and confident expression, leading A$AP Rocky by the hand, their baby cradled in his arms as he affectionately kissed the child’s forehead. The composition of the image bears a notable resemblance to the African Renaissance Monument, albeit … Read more
Once upon a time, a friend had a crush on a lady I was having a secret affair with. I didn’t tell him because she didn’t want anyone to know, and I didn’t trust him to understand. He was head over heels in love, and I was trapped between betraying her and being honest. I … Read more
The desire to be liked is instinctive. We, as a species, evolved to pay attention to what other people think about us because in the wild we needed them – to like us – to survive. Even today, you still need people to like you to survive. So, worrying if you are liked or not … Read more
