Life lessons from Mia Khalifa11 min read

Warning: this article is about Mia Khalifa (a former adult movie star), and contains strong, and offensive, language.

Who Is Mia Khalifa, And Why Is She Famous?

Mia Khalifa is a Lebanese-American media personality and former pornographic film actress. She was born on 10th February 1993, and her real name is Sarah Joe Chamoun.

In 2014 Mia Khalifa was recorded to be the most searched Porn star on Pornhub, and later in the world. What made her famous was her decision to participate in a porn video that featured her wearing a hijab.

Hijab is a Holy Attire of Muslims, thus, it was understandable when it led to outrage…

It was totally disrespectful, and as expected, the video pissed off a whole lot of Muslims, who apparently considered it offensive to see a girl in the hijab having sex with a white dude. Not to mention that the very video portrayed her and her “aunty” getting screwed simultaneously, thus pilling sacrilege upon the taboo.

How dare she?!!! How dare they?!!!

Death threats were sent to her and her life was literally in danger.

Anyway, though millions of people agreed (by liking and commenting) that the porn video was indeed a “good” one (judging by the quality of the acting and coupled with the innocence and beauty of Mia), she was still threatened because she was, you know, screwing around wearing a sacred attire.

The Outrage and Hypocrisy About Mia’s Actions.

I’m not here to judge whether the porn industry is good or bad – there are countless people going about the debate already. My point rather is, whilst many people would enjoy a well-plotted and acted porn scene, not everyone would stand by the porn actor/actress because we always love to appear saintly, pure, or at least sane. If it were not so, people wouldn’t be using Anonymous handles or clearing their browser histories

Hence, this is more than just Mia, or anything generally considered bad in the public eye. This is about people not openly supporting what they secretly crave themselves. This is about people who act hypocritically. Or, at best, people who are internally/intrapersonally conflicted.

Also Read: The Smell of Dead Bodies: The Hypocrisy In All of Us

As stated in my previous article about money, many people, for instance, frown at the fact that money makes the world go round, especially when it comes to topics like academics, religion, politics, and love.

Many people would love to delude themselves, claiming that money is not everything, yet the food we eat, the road we walk on, and even the peace we enjoy in our various homes are all fueled by money.

The person insisting that money can’t buy love would be the one demanding a romantic wedding with roses and unicorns, and the one preaching about the meaninglessness of money would be the one demanding an offering after service.

The Worship of Appearances Vs. What Is Good.

People are very conscious of what they are associated with.

Many people don’t want to be seen demanding money all the time because they don’t want to appear greedy and selfish, and many don’t want to be heard talking about sex all the time because they don’t want to appear “immoral”. This is also the attitude of billions of people towards several other matters.

…coating anger, lust, greed, selfishness, and our true nature only to find them sipping out in aggressive and passive-aggressive behaviors, and hatred and scorn and intolerance, just to mention a few.

The problem is that we have been conditioned to think that sex, money, fame, and enjoyment, in general, are bad. But since this is not particularly true, we subconsciously crave them, whilst consciously covering our track (or on our worse days, justify it).

Lack of money, sex, fame, and enjoyment could equally lead to all sorts of dark places, places such as robbery, rape, suicide, and depression just to mention a few. No one should be ashamed of wanting money, sex, fame, or any form of enjoyment really.

What each individual should seek is rather a way to enjoy life without hurting others.

Life is simple beyond good and bad. Things aren’t always black and white, in fact, they rarely are. Most times, people’s behaviors are influenced by the environment they find themselves.

This isn’t justifying porn or greed, or any other thing really. It is simply questioning the person judging. Why do you judge? On what bases are you judging? Is your judgment logical and helpful, or is it biased and damaging?

On the other hand, it is a warning to the one being judged: Why are you doing what you are doing? Are you doing what might get you in trouble? Are you acting in the most good and meaningful way?

Also Read: What Does It Mean To Be A Good Person?

What Should A Person Do In Life?

Solomon, also called Jedidiah, was, according to the Hebrew Bible, Old Testament, Quran, and Hadiths, a fabulously wealthy and wise king.  He was recorded to have been the wisest man that ever lived.

According to Solomon, it is good to enjoy your life when you can and that includes having money, eating, drinking, and of course, having sex. These are not things any man should be ashamed of or deny. As a matter of fact, Solomon dedicated an entire book titled “The Songs of Solomon” to just flattering a young lady. That’s how much he was open about how he really felt about things or people. Though in his wisdom, he wouldn’t have endorsed acting porn.

But things get even darker.

You’ll see the ugliness of this dark side when you realize that even for a good cause, in the beginning, when its outcome is still uncertain and too daring, very few, if any, would stand by you.

Whenever you do something unusual/uncommon – whether right or wrong – people would judge you. So, once you are sure you are doing the right thing, stand firm and ignore the hissing crowd.

Life becomes much better when you think and live on your terms, and are not being controlled by group thinking, or the opinions of others.

Go For What You Want. And, It Is Okay To Make Big Mistakes.

The point is, in the end, not everyone would like you, no matter how hard you try. Hence, you should think about, clearly state, and go after what you truly desire because life is short.

If you want money, declare it and go after it as if your life depended on it, (because it does)

If you want love, go after it.

If you want fame, do the necessary.

If you want to drink and be merry, the bottles are all yours.

Eat all you want.

But like Abraham Lincon once said

“Be sure you put your feet in the right place, then stand firm.”

Abraham Lincoln.

Also Read: Stop Chasing Start Attracting: This May Be The Secret To Getting What You Want

A Word From Mia Khalifa

So, here is our beloved Mia, the one which millions of guys have “wanked off” watching, being judged as being bad and rotten…but is she? Is she really bad?

After the massive explosion that shook Beirut on August 4, 2020; the government announced that the explosion was due to “Fireworks”. This was ridiculous, and Mia was one of few people who spoke up, and even took to eBay to auction off her famous glasses. Within just six hours, bidding was at $11,400. However, by the end of the auction, the top bid was set at $100,000. This and other resources were pulled together by her and offered to the victims of the blast

“You will never meet Allah because the eyes of god will see who you truly are, and no amount of sex a woman can have will ever out-harm the inhumanity, suffering, and crimes you inflict on the Lebanese people”.

Mia Khalifa

She has also gone on to support the fight against suicide and more…Read more about her good deeds here (Is Mia Khalifa putting her net worth to good use? About her philanthropy)

Most people struggle with accepting that there are hardly any solely good or bad – people, events, places, or circumstances. Mia, Hitler, Ghandi, You, and I are hardly purely good or evil. We are all humans with dreams, fears, and flaws. So we should be humble, and kind to ourselves and others.

Some Glaring Lessons From The Experience of Mia Khalifa and Other Porn Actors

To a large extent, societal norms decide what is good and bad – acceptable or not acceptable. And, individuals are greatly biased. That is the reason ex-convicts find it hard to get jobs.

Also Read: How To Recognize, Understand, And Respond To Your Perception Biases

Countless porn actors and actresses have committed and would still commit suicide because of this social phenomenon. As earlier stated, many people are cautious with who they associate themselves.

Simply put, the world would punish you for doing anything very daring, just like they punished and are still punishing Mia. But, there would always be people who would stand by you. Even Mia is now married to Robert Sandberg, a chef – and they look happy together.

Mia Khalifa Leaves Porn (And Changes Her Ways)

In January 2015, Khalifa signed a long-term contract with Bang Bros company which required her to perform in multiple films every month. After this, she decided to resign, she said:

“It was an eye-opener for me. I don’t want any of this, whether it’s positive or negative – but all of it was negative. I didn’t get too much into it about how my friends and family and relationships were suffering.”

Mia Khalifa

Mia also took to ridiculing the industry for using and dumping her. She revealed in August 2019, that she only made $12,000 working in the industry, after which the industry refused to take down her videos, leaving her as the second-ranking pornstar three months after leaving the industry, generating an insane amount of revenue for the industry.

Below is an interview of her, talking about all these

And Advise For Ladies Considering Porn, Prostitution, or Other Sex Works.

If you’ve been following this blog, then you must have come to understand that there is no single way of achieving success, and in fact, success is just whatever you define it to be.

That’s to say, there is no specific formula for everyone to apply to their lives in achieving their dreams. but there is a catch

As stated in this article here, you have to realize that the path to your success has already been walked by people of the past, and thus, you would be wise to learn from them. And no, it is not about listening to your parents.

The point is, read a damn book, watch tutorial videos online if you can’t get a master/mentor around, and voila! you get to know exactly what to do (in your unique life).

If you are considering getting into porn, prostitution, or other sex work, keep in mind that the consequences is not temporary – it may follow you for life. So, it is best to start early to develop a skill. Even if you doubt yourself, you’ve got to realize you can do it (if you can read this post, you can learn a new high-paying skill that can take you places and change your life forever).

Recommended: How To Develop Your Meta Skills, And Unlock Your Hidden Potentials.

Summary:

1. People hide how they feel and what they do.
2. People are very cautious about what and who they associate themselves with.
3. People easily judge and respond to appearances and reputation.
4. You should be able to identify what is helpful and cut off unreasonable repulsion towards what you crave.
5. Remember that after crossing some lines, as Mia did, there is no turning back
6. You can learn a skill.

FOOTNOTE

1. How much of the internet is porn
2. About Xvideos
3. Americans and time spent on porn
4. Mia Khalifas Net Worth, and other stuff
5. Porn stars who took their lives