Some people are very good at hiding their struggles. They wipe their tears before they show up in public. Sometimes you only learn about their struggles on the suicide note they left.
“The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we never give enough of is love.” – Henry Miller.
Having empathy means trying to personify a person’s perspective, emotions, and feelings.
It’s not just a feeling. It’s an ingrained feature of our species. It is as powerful as the sense of hunger or fear. Mirror neurons in the brain help you react by mimicking the activity of the brain of the sufferer.
Empathy is useful, but it has its dangers…
Someone with good values (like love, honesty, loyalty, courage, etcetera) will seek and do the right things, even if it doesn’t feel good. While someone with bad values (like domination, violence, pleasure, etcetera) will seek and do the wrong things, most likely because it feels good.
How then do you shape your values, to nudge yourself into doing good deeds?