“Like anything worth doing in life, happiness takes time and patience and consistency.” – Mark Manson
As you go through life, you will experience, gain, and lose many things. You will also be seen, addressed, and treated in many ways.
And while all these can lead you to see yourself in different ways, often bending to the whims and manipulation of the world, when you take charge of your identity, you become unshakable.
Saying “No” doesn’t make you unkind; it makes you compassionate (to your own needs).. It proves that you respect your time and energy.
The truth is, every time you say yes to something you dislike, you’re saying no to yourself.
When you learn to say no without guilt, you’re choosing to honour your needs and create space for what really matters.
When people talk about the objectification of women, the finger almost always points at men. But if you actually look around, especially online, you observe something seemingly contradictory.
In the messy space of real life, values like loyalty to family, respect for elders, devotion to faith, ethnic solidarity, and communal responsibility sometimes conflict with moral codes like honesty, fairness, justice, stewardship, compassion, and respect for human dignity, and so the real struggle begins
On a podcast interview, Neil deGrasse Tyson was asked if he thought he would be happier if he were religious. Neil replied that he was already “a pretty happy guy”. But when pressed further, he explained that religious people believe…
Think of a relationship like two people deciding to watch TV together. The quality of the relationship depends on how much they both enjoy the time (together) watching any show.
And just like watching TV, being in a relationship can fill people with happiness as much as it can lead to frustration and fights – just ask the kids who squabble over the channel to see.
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what if all of reality was simply a mirror of our own thoughts?
What nobody told me then, what nobody might have told you now, is that the “designated time” when “success” is supposed to happen is arbitrary. And the anxiety that comes from these designated timelines destroys your peace and hampers your growth.
Yet, we run with these timelines. Society as a whole has invented two categories of individuals, early bloomers and late bloomers, to further solidify these arbitrary timelines. Both labels further intensify the issue with the timelines.
“Perhaps one did not want to be loved so much as to be understood.” — George Orwel
Fitness is always on New Year's resolution lists. But very few people follow through—especially women who feel pretty enough, smart enough, and "not fat," so why bother?
Chinweotuto Esther's story challenges that thinking.
