“I believe in God, but not as one thing, not as an old man in the sky. I believe that what people call God is something in all of us. I believe that what Jesus and Mohammed and Buddha and all the rest said was right. It’s just that the translations have gone wrong.” – John Lennon
Somedays I wish it was all a dream. I wish I could wake up to a reality where I don’t feel confused and stressed out. Like a river, stress can be both a source of life and a destructive force that erodes your footing. It is possible to ride the waves of stress without being … Read more
Look around and you will find reasons to throw in the towel. From your neighbourhood to your schoolyard, to your social media feed, there is a constant source of self-loathing and self-doubt. Friends’ galleries of accomplishments may remind you of how far you are from the finish line. Celebrities’ songs may make you feel socially … Read more
I grew up in a poor family in a bustling but economically impoverished neighbourhood of Lagos, Nigeria. With six of us living in one room (so you can imagine how cramped and exhausting it was). Sometimes, I would wake up to find myself under the bed, my face stained with charcoal from the blackened pots … Read more
I saw a meme a few days ago where a porcupine was admiring the smoothness of a snake. The porcupine said, “I hate these spikes. I wish I had her body”. Then, in the next frame, the smooth-skinned snake was picked up and carried away by an eagle. Seeing this, the porcupine said, “Thank you … Read more
As a new chess player, I made many mistakes. This was frustrating, and I would get discouraged whenever I lost to a more experienced player. However, looking back, I realize that my mistakes helped me improve my game. I learned to think more carefully about my moves and to consider more possibilities. Much like my … Read more
The crucial wisdom is learning to accept things as they are, even if we don’t understand them, and to forge ahead. That is the power of acceptance. And, it includes not denying the issues we have or the uncertainties, but rather acknowledging them and working through them as best we can.
Morality is about how we relate with other people. How our actions impact the well-being of others.
Sadly, the poorer people get, the more they get desperate – short-sighted, self-serving, heartless, and even cynical. {The more evil and corrupt the country gets).
If you like pray from now till you cry blood, if Nigeria doesn’t get richer, and our economy, healthcare system, and education don’t improve, our morality won’t get better.
A self-fulfilling prophecy is a belief that causes itself to become true. But, self-fulfilling prophecies don’t come true because they are powerful. They do so because we are.
The traditional definition of career success is often based on external factors, such as making a lot of money or getting a high-status job. However, these factors are not always relevant to our individual needs and desires. In fact, trying to achieve success based on these external factors can lead to discontentment, anxiety, and confusion. I know this, because I used to be that typical young Nigerian who cared too much about what others thought…
The mind, the most complex thing in the known universe, controls our actions and behaviours. It is influenced by a vast gamut of factors, both internal and external. Understanding why we act the way we do is a complex task, but there have been some useful attempts to do so. In this post, we will explore how the mind works internally, how it interacts with external factors, and what psychoanalysts have to say about how we can better control our behaviour.
