The desire to be liked is instinctive. We, as a species, evolved to pay attention to what other people think about us because in the wild we needed them – to like us – to survive. Even today, you still need people to like you to survive. So, worrying if you are liked or not … Read more
I saw a meme a few days ago where a porcupine was admiring the smoothness of a snake. The porcupine said, “I hate these spikes. I wish I had her body”. Then, in the next frame, the smooth-skinned snake was picked up and carried away by an eagle. Seeing this, the porcupine said, “Thank you … Read more
It is normal to think that you were ghosted because of your fault – maybe something you said (or didn’t say), did (or didn’t do), or lacked (or owned). But, just like rejection, ghosting actually has more to do with the other person than it does with you. Yes, you might have actually said, done, or lacked something, but it was still the person’s decision to cut you off without even giving any reason.
The power of patience is that it allows us to transform the pain of waiting into the joy of hope, while helping us to understand our journey better, appreciate the present moment more fully, and aspire for a brighter future.
The crucial wisdom is learning to accept things as they are, even if we don’t understand them, and to forge ahead. That is the power of acceptance. And, it includes not denying the issues we have or the uncertainties, but rather acknowledging them and working through them as best we can.
A self-fulfilling prophecy is a belief that causes itself to become true. But, self-fulfilling prophecies don’t come true because they are powerful. They do so because we are.
It’s okay to lose people, but it’s not okay to lose a good friend. This is because, like wine, friendship gets better and more valuable as it ages.
If you worry you might lose a good friend, or just want your friendships to last forever, this post will be helpful.
According to the American Psychological Association (APA) inferiority complex is “a basic feeling of inadequacy and insecurity, deriving from actual or imagined physical or psychological deficiency.”
It is important to understand that the “deficiencies” do not on their own make you unworthy or inadequate. In fact, there are people who have serious deficiencies – height, IQ, strength, money, social media following, you name it – yet feel superior to everyone.
The mind, the most complex thing in the known universe, controls our actions and behaviours. It is influenced by a vast gamut of factors, both internal and external. Understanding why we act the way we do is a complex task, but there have been some useful attempts to do so. In this post, we will explore how the mind works internally, how it interacts with external factors, and what psychoanalysts have to say about how we can better control our behaviour.
There is a lot of good that comes with religion – from the laid down beliefs and morals which give us a sense of purpose and direction in life, down to the community and systems in place that provide support religion can serve critical roles in our lives. However, religion is prone to becoming harmful – to the point of traumatising its members.
