“I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.” ― Oscar Wilde
As a fresher on campus, I had several crushes. They were mostly my tall, dark and handsome senior colleagues – my ideal kind of man. Hence, it was not surprising when I agreed to date one of them immediately he asked. I was head over heels in love with him. I could do anything for … Read more
In my primary school, I had a pretty seatmate. We were around 12 years old, but my heart leapt whenever I saw her outside of school. In secondary school, now about 16, I also didn’t really know how much I was into a classmate until we left school. Those can be written off as childishness … Read more
Kate: an ebony voluptuous beauty – with flawless melanin-rich skin. She’s smart, gentle, yet fierce like Venus. Often adorned in scarlet apparel, she makes me weak to the knees. The thought of her makes me want to be a better person. She’s out of this world, but that’s only because she’s my imaginary lover – … Read more
Romans 7:15 is a verse from the Bible. It says, “I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do, I do not do. But what I hate, I do.” The verse is part of a passage where the Apostle Paul, a man considered an upright and unshakable believer of the Christian … Read more
Late last year, I realised I was feeling undervalued, used, and even disrespected by my friends, even though none of them had done anything specific to warrant those feelings. It was my own unmet expectations for constant calls, support, and appreciation that were causing this internal conflict. However, at the time, I lacked awareness of … Read more
Did you choose what turns you on or did you simply find yourself attracted to it? When I was a kid, I ran around the neighbourhood naked. The adults and older kids sometimes chuckled and asked me to put on some clothes. With time, as I matured, I understood and felt self-motivated to put on … Read more
Sometime last year, a friend I hadn’t seen for years came to visit their sibling in a town close to where I was staying. And, I happened to also have something to do in that town, so, we decided that a meet-up would be great. Well, the day came, I was in the city. But, … Read more
Ever scroll through social media and feel like everyone’s winning except you? I know that surreal feeling of watching time and your peers fly by. They’re getting married, having kids, leaving the country – achieving all the “adulting” milestones. Don’t get me wrong, I’m genuinely thrilled for them (whether they are my friends or strangers … Read more
Thrice upon a time, “the toughest man alive” attempted to break the Guinness World Record for the most pull-ups in 24 hours. The initial record was held at 4,020 pull-ups. On his first attempt, when he got to 2,500 pull-ups, he had muscle failure so bad he couldn’t even lift his hands high enough to … Read more
Many times I have been called selfish for putting myself before others. I used to feel wounded by such remarks, but not anymore. This is because I’ve learned to love myself, rather than trying to please others in hopes of being loved. When I think back on my journey to self-love, one memory stands out. … Read more
