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It’s okay to lose people, but it’s not okay to lose a good friend. This is because, like wine, friendship gets better and more valuable as it ages.
If you worry you might lose a good friend, or just want your friendships to last forever, this post will be helpful.
The traditional definition of career success is often based on external factors, such as making a lot of money or getting a high-status job. However, these factors are not always relevant to our individual needs and desires. In fact, trying to achieve success based on these external factors can lead to discontentment, anxiety, and confusion. I know this, because I used to be that typical young Nigerian who cared too much about what others thought…
According to the American Psychological Association (APA) inferiority complex is “a basic feeling of inadequacy and insecurity, deriving from actual or imagined physical or psychological deficiency.”
It is important to understand that the “deficiencies” do not on their own make you unworthy or inadequate. In fact, there are people who have serious deficiencies – height, IQ, strength, money, social media following, you name it – yet feel superior to everyone.
The mind, the most complex thing in the known universe, controls our actions and behaviours. It is influenced by a vast gamut of factors, both internal and external. Understanding why we act the way we do is a complex task, but there have been some useful attempts to do so. In this post, we will explore how the mind works internally, how it interacts with external factors, and what psychoanalysts have to say about how we can better control our behaviour.
There is a lot of good that comes with religion – from the laid down beliefs and morals which give us a sense of purpose and direction in life, down to the community and systems in place that provide support religion can serve critical roles in our lives. However, religion is prone to becoming harmful – to the point of traumatising its members.
Envy is a core part of our nature, but it is an emotion that most people deny feeling. Even the most stoic among us cannot escape envy entirely. It is born of dissatisfaction. It arises when we see others possessing things we don’t have. This can be anything from achievements and material possessions to qualities like intelligence or beauty. And, since it’s also our nature to be insatiable, we always want more, envy often clings to us like a monkey’s grip.
The question “Why do you love me?” can be a challenging one to answer, especially if you have been trying to show your love for the person in question. On the one hand, it shows that they have sensed your love towards them. But, on the other hand, it shows that they still have some questions as to why you love them. Perhaps, they worry that they are misunderstanding your niceness for love, or that you do not really love them, or that you love them but for the wrong reasons.
Breaking up doesn’t always mean you don’t love your partner. It can happen if the relationship is no longer working or if the people involved are not compatible. It is important to end things in the nicest way possible, even if you are the one who wants to break up. In this post we will discuss how to break up with your partner without hurting them.
The popular advice is to be unique and stand out. But, the truth is, it’s okay to follow the crowd in the beginning. In fact, it’s necessary. You can’t be unique if you don’t learn the rudiments and master your craft. And you can’t do that outside the crowd.
Our minds are built to focus on problems – the excess salt, negative comment, and bad news. This is not a bad thing, as it helps us tackle the problems in our lives. But being fixated on the negative leads to unhappiness.
Without intentionally refocusing our minds on the sunny side of things, we might end up thinking our entire world is dark and gloomy, whilst, in fact, the full picture is heartwarmingly bright and colourful with a few patches of grey.
