One idea that caused a Jupiter-sized change in me was the concept of “Memento Mori” (Latin for “Remember you must die”). I first encountered the ideas in Ryan Holiday’s book “Ego is the Enemy”. The subject might sound pessimistic and unpleasant for most people, but it helped me develop a personal philosophy of how to … Read more
It was the weekend, and I was feeling drained and lethargic. I don’t know if it was from my routine of long hours in front of the screen, lack of sufficient sleep, or the stress from cutting the lawn. Whichever the case, I was tired of the routine and needed some metaphorical sunshine. So, I … Read more
As a fresher on campus, I had several crushes. They were mostly my tall, dark and handsome senior colleagues – my ideal kind of man. Hence, it was not surprising when I agreed to date one of them immediately he asked. I was head over heels in love with him. I could do anything for … Read more
In my primary school, I had a pretty seatmate. We were around 12 years old, but my heart leapt whenever I saw her outside of school. In secondary school, now about 16, I also didn’t really know how much I was into a classmate until we left school. Those can be written off as childishness … Read more
If you don’t ask her, how would you know?
Asking brings clarity. Yet it doesn’t guarantee certainty.
And most times the uncertainty is the scariest part. I mean the anxiety of not knowing what she would say or do. What if she says yes? What if her friends discourage her? What if things get awkward?
Kate: an ebony voluptuous beauty – with flawless melanin-rich skin. She’s smart, gentle, yet fierce like Venus. Often adorned in scarlet apparel, she makes me weak to the knees. The thought of her makes me want to be a better person. She’s out of this world, but that’s only because she’s my imaginary lover – … Read more
The first girl I had a serious crush on dragged me on for months before friendzoning me. Like many inexperienced guys, I was overthinking the whole thing. I spent months going online to learn how to dress, where to go, words to use, and so on. Yet, despite all my planning, she still hit me … Read more
My mailbox was filled with too many rejection letters, discombobulating me. How can such cataclysms befall me? How am I going to keep on with all these? Why am I having a bad day? These were the questions running through my mind. I completed my NYSC program last year and that was the last time … Read more
Growing up in a religious setting, I was exposed to a lot of ideas that were not particularly in line with science nor had any good justification. For instance, I was told God formed man using dust from the ground, sex before marriage is a sin, and not accepting Jesus meant you were going to … Read more
The trauma was still fresh. I had been having sleep paralysis, lucid dreams, and randomly feeling the urge to cry. However, I had been mostly wearing a smile and looking strong. But, something else was also happening. I was beginning to get addicted to her voice. She was pretty and petite. Her voice was soothing. … Read more
