The Perfect Way To Answer The Question “Why Do You Love Me?”16 min read

10 Perfect Answers To The Question “Why Do You Love Me?”

Have you ever been asked the question “Why do you love me?”? Or something similar. It’s a question that can take you aback, especially when asked by someone who you have been trying to show that you love. 

On one hand, it shows that the person has sensed your love towards them (so they are not asking, “Do you love me?”). But, on the other hand, it shows that they still have some questions as to why you love them. Perhaps, they worry that they are misunderstanding your niceness for love, or that you do not really love them, or that you love them but for the wrong reasons. 

Whichever the case, it can be both a simple and complex question, and the answer can be even more difficult if you haven’t taken the time to think about it. But if you’re truly in love, you already have the answers locked somewhere in your heart, waiting to burst out and reveal themselves to your object of love.

That is why in this post, we will explore some reasons you may love them – your girlfriend, boyfriend, or partner – and the perfect answer to give when next you hear the question. Or perhaps, you could just save them the trouble, and reveal it to them immediately after this.

Let’s dive in:

How Do You Explain Why You Love Your Girlfriend/Boyfriend/Partner?

To explain why you love someone, you have to be honest and vulnerable, or else they might sense the insincerity and detest you for that, or the response may lose its potency. You must take the time to really think about the unique combination of qualities that draws you to them and enriches your life. The aim is not to make up lies just to appease them, but to simply show them why you genuinely appreciate them and want them to be in your life.

Taking the time to think about the reasons you love someone is a healthy practice that will leave you feeling more grateful for having them around, as well as help you love them even more. 

Don’t be caught unprepared, take time to reminisce about them if they are far away, or pause and adore them if they are right next to you. Pay attention to the little things.

What To Love About Someone? Answering The Question, “What Do You Love About Me?”

Everyone – every single one of the 7.9 billion people on this planet – has something unique about them. And, the culture, environment and type of relationship you find yourself in will to a great extent influence what you can appreciate and love about them. 

However, in general, the reasons or things you love about them can be categorised into;

Their Physical Appearance:

This could be

• The shape, size, and colour of their eyes: There are several possible combinations, but to you, there may just be one of the most beautiful eyes you’ve ever seen.
• The shape, size, and texture of their lips: Perhaps when they smile, it makes your heart flutter. And their kiss is better than wine.
• The size, weight, and shape of their body: To you, it may be perfect in every way. You want to touch, caress, fondle, and squeeze them tightly whenever you’re close (you just can’t keep your hands to yourself).
• The texture, length, and colour of their hair: Maybe it’s short, curly, and black. Perhaps it’s long, straight, and blond. Perhaps it’s something about how it feels when you touch it. 
• The look and feel of their skin: Perhaps you’re enchanted by how soft, clean, and smooth it feels. Perhaps it’s simply flawless.

Etcetera…

Keep in mind that there is nothing wrong with admiring someone’s physical appearance (it is part of who they are). However, it is important to complement features that you genuinely admire. It would be dishonest to say you love the body of a chubby person when in reality you prefer a skinny one.

Their Personality:

This could be

• Their sense of humour: Maybe they always know how to make you laugh. Or, they know how to defuse a tense situation with proper and well-timed humour. 
• Their kindness: Maybe you’ve observed that they do not do (you or others) favours to gain something, but are genuinely interested and willing to help (even complete strangers whom they may never meet again).
• Their passion: Maybe you like that they are enthusiastic and passionate about their job, hobbies, and life in general. Maybe you find that kind of energy sexy and want it in your life.
• Their strength and grit: Perhaps you’ve watched them go through tough times and have seen how their faith, character, loyalty, confidence, and integrity remained steadfast despite everything. 

Etcetera.

Keep in mind that the personalities you love in someone may not always be their strengths. Perhaps you love how they are tough-looking but still has a feminine, gentle side that they are not afraid to express. Perhaps you find their ability to be vulnerable endearing and admirable. 

Their Emotional Maturity

This could be

• Their emotional intelligence: Maybe they know how to handle their emotions in a healthy way, and also know how to respond to you (or even others) when you are feeling emotional.
• Their understanding: Perhaps they are not quick to judge, but will rather listen, and try to see things from your perspective. Maybe they often offer support when you are struggling.
• Their ability to forgive: Not everyone has the ability to let things slide. Perhaps, you find their ability to let go of grudges and move on heartwarming. Of course, this doesn’t mean you intend to abuse it, but that you know that everyone makes mistakes, and everyone needs forgiveness.
• They communicate effectively: They know how to talk to you, and how to get you to open up. They do not bottle things up and explode or implode but are rather always willing to talk about things (with you and others) in a healthy way.
• They are supportive: It could be that they are always there for you, during the good and the hard times. Perhaps they have cheered you on when no one else seemed to care, and have even helped pull you out of dark places with words of encouragement and affirmation.

Etcetera.

Keep in mind that being emotionally mature does not mean the person may not sometimes act insensitively or say hurtful things to you. Life is complex, and so are people. But, having someone who is honest, handles their emotions well, and apologise when they do something wrong is a gift.

Their Intellectual Capacity/Level

It may be that:

• They are curious: Maybe they love to learn and explore new things. They are not the type to stick to old patterns but always want to try new things – explore their curiosity.
• They can hold deep conversations: Perhaps you can talk about anything with them, from politics to philosophy, in a deep and insightful way.
• They challenge your ideas: Perhaps they push you to think and come up with better ideas. They don’t just agree with everything you say (especially if it is important and may impact your well-being).
• They are intelligent: Maybe you love that they are critical thinkers. You like that they are always learning new things and teaching you new things. Perhaps you are a sapiophile (i.e. someone who is attracted to intelligent or intelligent people).

Etcetera.

Keep in mind that there are different forms of intelligence. There are people who are good at understanding words, while others do well at understanding physical shapes and dimensions. Sometimes, it is not that people are dumb, but that you are not appreciating and engaging them in the right domain.

Their Spirituality

It could be that

• They are purposeful and driven: They seem to have a clear sense of purpose and direction in life. This could be in terms of career, family, or personal goals and ambitions.
• They are happy and contented: Perhaps they don’t seem to be obsessed about anything, but simply flow with their Ikigai.
• They may be wise: They seem to have a deep understanding of life and its mysteries. They are the kind of people you want by your side when life seems chaotic
• They may be highly spiritual: They have high moral standards and may have a strong connection to their religious faith or spirituality. 

Etcetera.

Spirituality is something that is easily fueled or doused by the people around you. So, it is critical to pick the right one if you place a high value on spirituality. Talking about value…

Their Values:

This could be

• Their dreams and goals align with yours: They seem to value similar things as you. This could be in terms of career, family, or personal interests. 
• They have similar principles as you: Not only do they want similar things, they want them in the same way. Perhaps you both want to stay out of career paths that are harmful to humanity and want to live on your own terms. 
• They (intend to) follow a similar path as you: Perhaps you both are artists or entrepreneurs. Perhaps you both want a monogamous marriage. They basically inspire you and encourage you by simply walking the same path as you.

Etcetera.

Having shared values is a force multiplier. It strengthens the bond in your relationship, which helps you achieve your goals easier and faster, and also helps you stay strong during adversities.

Their Other Unique Qualities:

This may include

• Their race and tribe: Maybe you are biassed towards a certain race. Perhaps you generally prefer people from other tribes or countries. Or, maybe you prefer people who you share common ancestry with.
• Their demeanour and mannerisms: Perhaps there’s something about how they sit and walk, or gesture when they speak that you find particularly loveable.
• Their uniqueness: Perhaps they are one of those natural-born leaders or geniuses. Perhaps they’ve accomplished something remarkable or particularly interesting to you. 
• Their quirks: Maybe it’s the scar they have or the trauma you know they’ve endured.

Etcetera.

Remember that there are countless reasons to love someone, and you can love someone for a plethora of reasons at once. Also remember that some people shine best under certain conditions, and it might be best to also highlight that (condition) when letting them know the reasons you love them.

Now that we’ve explored the different reasons you could love someone, now, how do you communicate this to them?

How To Approach Answering The Question “Why Do You Love Me?”

You must approach this question with wisdom, empathy, and sincerity. Because they are asking this question more or less as a test to know how much you’ve connected with them. So, do this:

Be specific: 

Don’t just say “I love you because of your physical appearance.” Instead, drill down to the specific things about their physical appearance, and how it manifests itself. For example, if you love their lips, you could say you love how it curl when they smile.

Be genuine: 

Don’t make up stuff. They will perceive it unless they are just very insecure people seeking validation. Your answer should come from the heart. Don’t try to recite a line you’ve read here or somewhere else. It doesn’t have to come out smooth or perfect either. It just needs to be genuine.

Think about what’s important to them: 

This does not mean you should tell them what they want to hear, but you should not forget to highlight how you appreciate the effort they’ve been putting into specific aspects of their lives. If you notice they put in a lot of hours into their craft, it might be much more meaningful to acknowledge their tenacity as one of the features you love rather than to only compliment how white their teeth look.

The Perfect Answer To The Question “Why Do You Love Me?”

Here are 10 perfect answers to the question, “Why do you love me?” for him or her:

1. “I love you because, no matter how hectic life gets, you always make time for us. And when we’re together, you’re completely there. I love seeing your beautiful face. I love how smile and hold me tenderly with those gentle hands of yours. The way you speak to me makes me feel at peace, important and valued. These are just a few of the reasons off the top of my head right now. But I’d be an absolute fool not to love every bit of you.”
2. “Damn, where do I start? I love your killer confidence and how you don’t care what others think. The way you own every room you walk into just floors me. Plus you’ve got this crazy entrepreneurial hustle that I admire to no end. You inspire me to take more risks and really go for it in life.”
3. “I cherish your beauty. I cherish your heart. I cherish your body. I cherish your mind. I cherish everything about you. I just want to lay beside you for eternity. I want to worship you. I love you because you are the reason I know what happiness is!”
4. “I love your insatiable intellectual curiosity. The way you can pivot from deep philosophical questions to analysing the latest trendy meme with equal passion. You’re funny but also very clever. You’ve got a unique way of connecting the dots. Whenever I’m with you Love, I feel alive again!”
5. “I love you because I don’t have to pretend around you. There’s this raw authenticity about you that I adore. You don’t try to be anything other than your true, quirky self. Whether that’s rocking your sweet dance moves in public or openly expressing the weird thoughts most people censor. That realness is what initially drew me in and what I continue to cherish daily.”
6. “Your ability to find beauty in the smallest details is what I love most. How you stop to smell the flowers, savouring each petal’s fragrance. The way you run your fingers along an old brick wall, appreciating its rich textures. You’ve taught me to slow down and really be present for life’s simple pleasures. I love you because whenever I am around you, I can feel like a kid again!”
7. “I love the pure joy that radiates from you when you’re doing what you love. I love how you paint, play the piano, or just stare at the river. Your passion is intoxicating yet calming. Witnessing you in your element, operating from that space of pure flow reminds me of the importance of honouring one’s deepest callings. I love you because you make me feel like everything is going to be alright!”
8. “Let me lay it out – your ambition and drive to build something meaningful in this world is mad inspiring, babe. The way you chase your professional dreams with relentless hard work, while still being present for family and giving back to the community. Your integrity in pursuit of success is what I respect most.”
9. “I love how you make me a better person. Being with you makes me want to grow, to push myself, to become the best version of myself I can be. You inspire me, challenge me, and help me evolve in ways I never could alone. I love you because you want what’s best for me, just as I want what’s best for you”
10. “Baby, you had me at your smile and your first kiss stole my heart. I love the radiant energy you emanate that instantly uplifts any room you enter. Spending time together is like being bathed in sunshine. Your bright positivity is a gift to this world and what keeps me coming back for more. Without you, I wither away”

You can see that these answers are specific, genuine, and meaningful. They highlight a deep understanding of the person’s life (be it their stressful job or love for art), an appreciation of their effort, sacrifice, and attention to the relationship, as well as their physical attractiveness. 

Simple, direct, and honest answers like this would likely be remembered and cherished for a long time.

Conclusion: I love you because you make me want to be better for you

The first day a girl held my hands as we walked, I felt so special. The truth was that I didn’t feel like I deserved her. She was pretty, hardworking, and smart. She was well dressed, smelled nice, and had the kind of body I fantasise about.

Usually with that kind of high-class girl, you want to take things slow because she prolly already has other options, and may just be giving you attention to access you. So, when she held my hands in public, I knew that I had to be a better person (I had to be worthy of her).

Of course, this doesn’t mean I wasn’t worthy of her love. It just means that I felt I should be someone she should also be glad she met. I knew that, just like her, I have to up my game – I needed to work on my physical appearance (clothes and gym), money (career and skills), values (beliefs and goals), and so on.

And, I really think you know you love someone when you want to give them your best self. That is why, for me, the short answer to the question is that “I love you because you make me want to be better for you”.

Did you enjoy reading this? Please leave a comment and also share it with friends.

Below are other resources you might find useful:

• Why she/he asks “Do you love me?” Constantly [what to do]
• Scared To Say “I Love You”: 7 Steps To Overcome The Fear
• How To Kiss Someone You Love In 7 Steps [+ 7 Parallel Life Lessons From Kissing Romantically]
• Are You Falling In Love? What To Expect And How To Handle The Stages of Attraction.
• Gamophobia: The Fear Of Commitment [And How To Overcome It]
• How To Know If You Are Ready For A Relationship