The Alignment Conundrum: Why Personal Growth Can Feel Like a Lonely Purgatory.

Kindly let me help you or you'll drown,' said the monkey... putting the fish... safely up a tree. - Alan Watts The Alignment Conundrum Why Personal Growth Can Feel Like a Lonely P

We often begin our personal development journeys because we feel we need more or lack something. Often, it is the pain of where and how we are that drives us to seek growth.

But what many of us fail to realise is that personal development is not the same as acquiring more, or even success.

The Cuckoo Effect: How to Stop Nurturing Other People’s Dreams Instead of Your Own

While most people may not wish you harm on a very good day, it is important to realise that everyday they try to lay eggs of their values, opinions, ideas, wishes, expectations, or demands into your own life. And, those eggs, once they hatch, leverage your fears, ego, and other strong emotions to gradually compel you to nurture them.

The Selfishness Paradox: Why You Must Think of More Than Yourself To Get What You Want In Life

We all have our selfish desires, but achieving things that are truly grand or worthwhile often requires the input of more than one individual. Hence, to achieve our selfish desires, we often need to do selfless things. And, even when success comes, the wise can tell that the most important thing was the tribe (not the selfish prize).

3 Liberating Lessons From Overcoming Death Anxiety: How to Live Despite Fear And Uncertainty 

Going back to the year 2020—it was lockdown + death anxiety for me. I was tired of being stuck indoors, tired of the voices in my head telling me I was going to die soon. So when a friend invited me to some church, I tagged along, hoping for a change of scene. 

We got there, and the prophetess or whatever title she preferred, looked at me and said she saw a vision: I’d die in 2023.

Quit Seeking Validation: 7 Useful Strategies to Build Unquestionably Strong Confidence 

Many people believe they need others’ approval to feel good about themselves, but real confidence isn’t something others can give you; it’s something you cultivate from within.

In this post, we’ll explore why external validation is harmful and 7 useful strategies to build unquestionably strong confidence.

The Identity Trap: Why Your Success Might Be Holding You Back (And How to Break Free)

I used to introduce myself at networking events with “I’m a marketer” and leave it at that. But one day, a client came to me totally frustrated with their marketing results.  Instead of jumping straight into campaign strategies, I spent time helping them get clear on their bigger mission.  Two hours later, they had tears … Read more

Managing Ego: How To Stop Taking Yourself Too Seriously

Here is the thing, deep down we know we are not perfect. It is impossible to be perfect. No one has looks, finances, relationships, and all nailed to the T (at least, not all the time). And even those who manage to score high in seemingly all domains of their lives, do so at a great cost – they are under constant pressure; and in some cases, might even feel a sort of second-hand embarrassment from those around them who think this whole charade of perfection is absolute madness and want to just be themselves. 

Blind Following: Why You Follow Leaders Without Question

Our world has often divided itself into two major archetypes: leaders and followers.

The leaders come up with ideas, take charge, and guide others. And the followers stand behind them, supporting their ideas, sometimes building a cult-like allegiance, so strongly that they’ll do whatever it takes to spread and defend their cherished beliefs.