“I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.” ― Oscar Wilde
As a new chess player, I made many mistakes. This was frustrating, and I would get discouraged whenever I lost to a more experienced player. However, looking back, I realize that my mistakes helped me improve my game. I learned to think more carefully about my moves and to consider more possibilities. Much like my … Read more
It is normal to think that you were ghosted because of your fault – maybe something you said (or didn’t say), did (or didn’t do), or lacked (or owned). But, just like rejection, ghosting actually has more to do with the other person than it does with you. Yes, you might have actually said, done, or lacked something, but it was still the person’s decision to cut you off without even giving any reason.
Do you know that over 100 million kids in elementary and high school all over the world, experience bullying? Do you also know that 80% of bullied kids grow up with PTSD from childhood?
The crucial wisdom is learning to accept things as they are, even if we don’t understand them, and to forge ahead. That is the power of acceptance. And, it includes not denying the issues we have or the uncertainties, but rather acknowledging them and working through them as best we can.
An apology is not just about the words; it’s about understanding what you did wrong and making an effort to make things better in your friendship or any form of association, most politely and reasonably.
An apology is like an invisible glue that keeps our human or social connections intact when mistakes and offences arise.
But, making an honest and acceptable apology can be tough for many people.
Worrying is automatic because our minds are constantly conjuring up the worst scenarios so we can better prepare for emergencies and what might go wrong. It’s a natural response to the unpredictability of life. But that doesn’t mean we should go on worrying about everything.
A self-fulfilling prophecy is a belief that causes itself to become true. But, self-fulfilling prophecies don’t come true because they are powerful. They do so because we are.
It’s okay to lose people, but it’s not okay to lose a good friend. This is because, like wine, friendship gets better and more valuable as it ages.
If you worry you might lose a good friend, or just want your friendships to last forever, this post will be helpful.
The traditional definition of career success is often based on external factors, such as making a lot of money or getting a high-status job. However, these factors are not always relevant to our individual needs and desires. In fact, trying to achieve success based on these external factors can lead to discontentment, anxiety, and confusion. I know this, because I used to be that typical young Nigerian who cared too much about what others thought…
According to the American Psychological Association (APA) inferiority complex is “a basic feeling of inadequacy and insecurity, deriving from actual or imagined physical or psychological deficiency.”
It is important to understand that the “deficiencies” do not on their own make you unworthy or inadequate. In fact, there are people who have serious deficiencies – height, IQ, strength, money, social media following, you name it – yet feel superior to everyone.
