“I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.” ― Oscar Wilde
Pain exists. You can’t wish it away. It visits in many ways – getting sick, losing loved ones, having a breakup, getting fired, or even small daily annoyances like traffic, spilt drinks, misplaced keys, or a stubbed thumb. However, it is how we interpret and respond to these pains that determine whether they lead to … Read more
On numerous occasions, I’ve deleted phone numbers simply because the other person wasn’t enthused about chatting with me. Maybe they took too long to reply, or worse, ignored my message. I’ve even had instances where I deleted a contact simply because they just didn’t seem interested in continuing a specific conversation. While this might look … Read more
Have you ever seen someone panic at the sight of a mouse or cockroach? Maybe that’s you. There’s no shame in that. I remember wanting to shut my windows after watching World War Z despite knowing zombies aren’t even real. We all have feelings – we all have emotions. That’s what makes us human. And, … Read more
Do you believe there are people out of your league, and that there are people who you are out of their league? Have you ever looked at a couple and wondered, “Why is he/she with them?” Or, have you found yourself feeling that maybe, just maybe, you’re settling for less than you truly want and … Read more
Almost everyone did this as kids: Pointing at siblings or friends as the reason for breaking dishes or misplacing books, to avoid getting in trouble. Sadly, for many people, not much has changed as adults, including in romantic relationships. They dread admitting when they’re wrong. This could be, to save face. Other times, it’s a … Read more
I still remember how awkward and undeserving I felt when a customer care representative first addressed me as “Mr. David”. I was about 15 then, and prior to that, I had only had family, friends, and teachers yelling at, commanding, or at best calling me by my name without affixing any title or much respect. … Read more
When I played the video, I saw a trashed room: TV on the floor face flat, mirror shattered and littered everywhere; and even the curtains had been thrown down. It was a complete mess. At first, I thought he had just been robbed. But when I called, he informed me his girlfriend had done that. … Read more
Sometime last year I had to visit a traditional bonesetter. At the place, I saw a little girl who had Cerebral Palsy (CP) that affected her muscle tone, control, and movement, ultimately leading to deformations in her face, arms and legs. Usually, I looked away when I saw such kids, but the father who carried … Read more
Every New Year, you write down “Get into a relationship” as one of your goals, yet you still find yourself single on every New Year’s Eve. It’s not like you don’t have a social life, go out on dates, or have sex. In fact, you could even find yourself getting in and out of a … Read more
Connecting with someone transcends merely knowing superficial details about them or having their contacts. It’s about dissolving the line between you and them, so that their emotions and thoughts become an integral part of your consciousness, and their actions become well-understood and even appreciated. When you connect with someone, you feel their joys and sorrows as viscerally as if they emanated from within you.
