Are You Enjoying It? An Essay On Compatibility, Inconveniences, and Incompatibility In Relationships

Are You Enjoying It A Short Essay On Compatibility, Inconveniences, and Incompatibility In Relationships

Think of a relationship like two people deciding to watch TV together. The quality of the relationship depends on how much they both enjoy the time (together) watching any show.

And just like watching TV, being in a relationship can fill people with happiness as much as it can lead to frustration and fights – just ask the kids who squabble over the channel to see.

Preparing For Greener Pastures: The Value of Personal Development, Even When You Have Nothing To Show For It

Hoping for a better life in Nigeria can feel like trying to survive in the Amazon rain forest, butt-naked. It pours problems and bad news like rain. And inflation, like a vicious beast, is always ravaging – the cost of living defies the law of aerodynamics, and the purchasing power diminishes, as the value of the naira falls against the dollar like a coconut from a tree.

So, despite all these, why am I not of the opinion that immigrating (aka “Japa”) is the solution?

Framing, Context, and Content: How Thoughts and Thinking (Re)shape Your Reality

Our objective reality—which includes our relationships, careers, and all other aspects of our lives—is significantly shaped by our subjective reality—which is essentially the content of our minds: our thoughts and the way we think. This is because our thoughts and thinking processes directly influence our emotions, decisions, and, ultimately, our behaviours. 

Straw: Why We Must Care a Little More

I saw the movie Straw last month. And I was so angry at the critics that I started to fear for myself: How could a message so clear, loud, and urgent be so completely missed?

Straw is a very simple movie. It wasn’t like a Christopher Nolan film with layers of twists and hidden meanings. It was a straightforward Tyler Perry movie that depicted the unfolding of a horrible day in a woman’s life.

And even if it is mostly fiction, it’s important to remember that nothing in this movie is impossible, or hasn’t in some way happened to a very real person somewhere.

The Alignment Conundrum: Why Personal Growth Can Feel Like a Lonely Purgatory.

We often begin our personal development journeys because we feel we need more or lack something. Often, it is the pain of where and how we are that drives us to seek growth.

But what many of us fail to realise is that personal development is not the same as acquiring more, or even success.

Arguments Can Make You Smarter: 5 Ingredients for Productive Debate

I think there is something insidious about having someone or something that never admits being wrong – from parents and pastors who don’t like being questioned to presidents and gods who don’t condone being challenged – especially in this world where we have seen, time and time again, that everyone makes mistakes and many people suffer because of bad ideas.