Life is far more bumpy than what we are led to believe in books, movies, or social media. The reality is more like a sine wave where we oscillate between highs and lows: sad and happy, setbacks and breakthroughs, losses and wins. And it is often beyond our complete control. This is true for both … Read more
Hoping for a better life in Nigeria can feel like trying to survive in the Amazon rain forest, butt-naked. It pours problems and bad news like rain. And inflation, like a vicious beast, is always ravaging – the cost of living defies the law of aerodynamics, and the purchasing power diminishes, as the value of the naira falls against the dollar like a coconut from a tree.
So, despite all these, why am I not of the opinion that immigrating (aka “Japa”) is the solution?
We perceive other countries as the proverbial promised lands: clean, safe and functional. Even the internet doesn’t fail to remind us each day of Tokyo’s cherry blossoms, Paris’ romantic cafes, and the Caribbean beaches, where the sand kisses your feet and the breeze wraps around bare skin.
And so, we dream. We wish. We plan to leave.
Our objective reality—which includes our relationships, careers, and all other aspects of our lives—is significantly shaped by our subjective reality—which is essentially the content of our minds: our thoughts and the way we think. This is because our thoughts and thinking processes directly influence our emotions, decisions, and, ultimately, our behaviours.
I saw the movie Straw last month. And I was so angry at the critics that I started to fear for myself: How could a message so clear, loud, and urgent be so completely missed?
Straw is a very simple movie. It wasn’t like a Christopher Nolan film with layers of twists and hidden meanings. It was a straightforward Tyler Perry movie that depicted the unfolding of a horrible day in a woman’s life.
And even if it is mostly fiction, it’s important to remember that nothing in this movie is impossible, or hasn’t in some way happened to a very real person somewhere.
I love movies that begin with the protagonist exploring the question, “Who am I?”, “What is my purpose?”, or “Do I even have a superpower?”. Especially when they have been singled out as special but don’t know why, yet. Think Neo from the Matrix, Po from Kung Fu Panda, or Harry Potter from, well, Harry Potter.
most of what we think we’ve learned, we haven’t really learned at all – as it lies in the volatile short-term memory – creating what I call the “illusion of learning.”
To overcome this problem and ensure information reaches permanent memory, you need to understand the mechanism behind remembering and forgetting.
Many years ago, I took the bold step of moving out of my parents’ house to live alone. Why? Because I wanted to find my path as a person, make my own decisions, and suffer the consequences myself. I believed that’s how it should be. Until a person can make uninfluenced decisions, they can’t take … Read more
Yesterday, on my way from work, I passed a boutique and instinctively started looking for something my wife would love. Next to it was another boutique that sold menswear; interestingly, I walked past without even glancing. Then it hit me: almost everything I buy these days is for her, not me. Not because she asks. Not because I have to. But because I want to. That’s what love does: it redirects your focus without effort. That’s why I believe: if love feels like effort, something is wrong.
Laziness keeps many people stuck at a particular level in their lives. Not because they lack the ability to move forward, but because they postpone action when it matters most.
But here’s the hard truth: staying stuck and doing nothing because of laziness has a cost: It will keep you in the same place, day after day, while life quietly passes by.
