“The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we never give enough of is love.” – Henry Miller.
I’m not always my authentic self. Many of what I say or write are stolen ideas from people who are smarter and better than me. Most folks are like me, though I think they go too far and don’t admit it. They use face apps to make themselves look like ageless dolls, or write fake profiles to attract attention. They even lie about their family status just to fit in with the cool kids. It’s sad but almost a norm now.
It’s sad when you don’t have friends to share nice experiences with. However, being alone is better than having toxic friends, because they would ruin your experiences and make you miserable. And the worst part is that you may not even know it’s them. In fact, very toxic friends might end up convincing you that you are the problem.
I’m introverted and a bit asocial. I’m often tempted to stop talking to the few friends I have. But, friends are important. Not just because everyone says so, but because they really are. Apart from the social benefits, friends help you stay sane. Friends reflect your emotions, values, and personality to you. They are the few people who truly see who you are. They are the ones who can save you when you turn against yourself. And, if you’re lucky, they are the ones who will stand by you when the world comes crashing down.
Good friends don’t have to be perfect. You don’t have to like everything about them. If you are honest, you will agree you don’t even like everything about yourself.
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Holding onto fixed beliefs and perceptions can provide stability, a sense of identity, and direction/purpose; but like fishing in a small pond when you have an entire ocean to explore – it can limit your growth and hinder your ability to learn and evolve. That is why it is important to be more open-minded and consider other people’s perspectives.
Trauma is an unpleasant psycho-physical response following an event (or series of events) that was perceived as a threat to a person’s physical or psychological well-being and surpasses their ability to cope (handle or adjust to it).
Think of it like being bitten by a snake. The initial bite may sting for a split second, but that is not the killer. The venom, which takes minutes or even hours to slowly deteriorates the cells and organs is what kills. So also, a traumatic event may last a few seconds or minutes and be unpleasant on its own, but it is the effects of it over the months or years that slowly wreck the traumatized person (i.e. the person who experienced the traumatic event).
Separation anxiety is a feeling of fear and emotional distress when a person is separated from a familiar or beloved individual, thing, or environment.
Separation anxiety when left unchecked and challenged can become a disorder. That is, “Separation Anxiety Disorder” (SAD), which can affect or prevent an individual from carrying out their usual activities. Although commonly associated with babies and young children, it can also affect adults.
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As technology advances, the world prospers, and options become multiplied, many influential people have prescribed self-control and discipline as the key to long-term success and genuine happiness. However, few of them have highlighted that developing and maintaining self-control or discipline is impossible without sufficient self-awareness.
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Deserving or worthiness by its very nature is subjective. In reality, there is no such thing (aka. “Life is not fair”). The concept of deserving or being worthy was invented by individuals and society to make sense of the world and promote positive behavior. However, this idea of deservingness can sometimes lead to non-positive behavior. This piece aims to give you a more practical and useful perspective.
You only continue to do things you think are good because the people around you seem to encourage or accept it. But, if you try to uncover what is objectively good, and applies to all people, at all places, and at all times, you will find yourself in the middle of an age-long ethical dilemma.
Living a life of integrity is the quality of consistently upholding strong moral and ethical principles that are humane without compromise in fairness, regardless of how difficult it may be, or who’s watching (or isn’t).
