What You Should Know Before Dating [Me(n)]
“Perhaps one did not want to be loved so much as to be understood.” — George Orwel
happiness
“Like anything worth doing in life, happiness takes time and patience and consistency.” – Mark Manson
Chinweotuto Esther’s Fitness Journey: Same Weight, Different Woman [After 6 Months at the Gym, Here Is What Really Changed]
Fitness is always on New Year’s resolution lists. But very few people follow through—especially women who feel pretty enough, smart enough, and “not fat,” so why bother?
Chinweotuto Esther’s story challenges that thinking.
Crafting a Better Nigeria: Why Your Work Should Be More Than A Means To Money
We perceive other countries as the proverbial promised lands: clean, safe and functional. Even the internet doesn’t fail to remind us each day of Tokyo’s cherry blossoms, Paris’ romantic cafes, and the Caribbean beaches, where the sand kisses your feet and the breeze wraps around bare skin.
And so, we dream. We wish. We plan to leave.
Straw: Why We Must Care a Little More
I saw the movie Straw last month. And I was so angry at the critics that I started to fear for myself: How could a message so clear, loud, and urgent be so completely missed?
Straw is a very simple movie. It wasn’t like a Christopher Nolan film with layers of twists and hidden meanings. It was a straightforward Tyler Perry movie that depicted the unfolding of a horrible day in a woman’s life.
And even if it is mostly fiction, it’s important to remember that nothing in this movie is impossible, or hasn’t in some way happened to a very real person somewhere.
Finding Your Superpower: A Guide to Discovering What Truly Sets You Apart
I love movies that begin with the protagonist exploring the question, “Who am I?”, “What is my purpose?”, or “Do I even have a superpower?”. Especially when they have been singled out as special but don’t know why, yet. Think Neo from the Matrix, Po from Kung Fu Panda, or Harry Potter from, well, Harry Potter.
The Secret To Mastery: 5 Steps For Remembering Everything You Learn
most of what we think we’ve learned, we haven’t really learned at all – as it lies in the volatile short-term memory – creating what I call the “illusion of learning.”
To overcome this problem and ensure information reaches permanent memory, you need to understand the mechanism behind remembering and forgetting.
Always Sorting It Out Alone Is Causing You Unnecessary Suffering: 5 Steps to Getting Help From Others Without Losing Respect
Many years ago, I took the bold step of moving out of my parents’ house to live alone. Why? Because I wanted to find my path as a person, make my own decisions, and suffer the consequences myself. I believed that’s how it should be. Until a person can make uninfluenced decisions, they can’t take … Read more
If Love Feels Like Effort, Something Is Wrong: The Secret to Fulfilling Relationships and Marriage
Yesterday, on my way from work, I passed a boutique and instinctively started looking for something my wife would love. Next to it was another boutique that sold menswear; interestingly, I walked past without even glancing. Then it hit me: almost everything I buy these days is for her, not me. Not because she asks. Not because I have to. But because I want to. That’s what love does: it redirects your focus without effort. That’s why I believe: if love feels like effort, something is wrong.
9 Strategic Ways To Stop Being Lazy (Even When You Feel Unmotivated)
Laziness keeps many people stuck at a particular level in their lives. Not because they lack the ability to move forward, but because they postpone action when it matters most.
But here’s the hard truth: staying stuck and doing nothing because of laziness has a cost: It will keep you in the same place, day after day, while life quietly passes by.
Power of The Random Walk: Why Your Detours Are More Valuable Than Your Plans
We often imagine life as a straight line. Do X, get Y, or go from point A to point B. But most of us already know, life doesn’t always work out like that.
In our treacherous yet beautiful reality, the path looks more like what mathematicians call a “random walk with drift.”. It is a messy, unpredictable journey influenced by detours: chaos, choices, failures, and fortunes.