What You Should Know Before Dating [Me(n)]
“Perhaps one did not want to be loved so much as to be understood.” — George Orwel
Chinweotuto Esther’s Fitness Journey: Same Weight, Different Woman [After 6 Months at the Gym, Here Is What Really Changed]
Fitness is always on New Year’s resolution lists. But very few people follow through—especially women who feel pretty enough, smart enough, and “not fat,” so why bother?
Chinweotuto Esther’s story challenges that thinking.
Why Life Is An Internal Game: How To Stop Feeling Like a Failure Even When You Fall Short of Expectations
Life is far more bumpy than what we are led to believe in books, movies, or social media. The reality is more like a sine wave where we oscillate between highs and lows: sad and happy, setbacks and breakthroughs, losses and wins. And it is often beyond our complete control. This is true for both … Read more
Preparing For Greener Pastures: The Value of Personal Development, Even When You Have Nothing To Show For It
Hoping for a better life in Nigeria can feel like trying to survive in the Amazon rain forest, butt-naked. It pours problems and bad news like rain. And inflation, like a vicious beast, is always ravaging – the cost of living defies the law of aerodynamics, and the purchasing power diminishes, as the value of the naira falls against the dollar like a coconut from a tree.
So, despite all these, why am I not of the opinion that immigrating (aka “Japa”) is the solution?
Crafting a Better Nigeria: Why Your Work Should Be More Than A Means To Money
We perceive other countries as the proverbial promised lands: clean, safe and functional. Even the internet doesn’t fail to remind us each day of Tokyo’s cherry blossoms, Paris’ romantic cafes, and the Caribbean beaches, where the sand kisses your feet and the breeze wraps around bare skin.
And so, we dream. We wish. We plan to leave.
Framing, Context, and Content: How Thoughts and Thinking (Re)shape Your Reality
Our objective reality—which includes our relationships, careers, and all other aspects of our lives—is significantly shaped by our subjective reality—which is essentially the content of our minds: our thoughts and the way we think. This is because our thoughts and thinking processes directly influence our emotions, decisions, and, ultimately, our behaviours.
Straw: Why We Must Care a Little More
I saw the movie Straw last month. And I was so angry at the critics that I started to fear for myself: How could a message so clear, loud, and urgent be so completely missed?
Straw is a very simple movie. It wasn’t like a Christopher Nolan film with layers of twists and hidden meanings. It was a straightforward Tyler Perry movie that depicted the unfolding of a horrible day in a woman’s life.
And even if it is mostly fiction, it’s important to remember that nothing in this movie is impossible, or hasn’t in some way happened to a very real person somewhere.
Finding Your Superpower: A Guide to Discovering What Truly Sets You Apart
I love movies that begin with the protagonist exploring the question, “Who am I?”, “What is my purpose?”, or “Do I even have a superpower?”. Especially when they have been singled out as special but don’t know why, yet. Think Neo from the Matrix, Po from Kung Fu Panda, or Harry Potter from, well, Harry Potter.
The Secret To Mastery: 5 Steps For Remembering Everything You Learn
most of what we think we’ve learned, we haven’t really learned at all – as it lies in the volatile short-term memory – creating what I call the “illusion of learning.”
To overcome this problem and ensure information reaches permanent memory, you need to understand the mechanism behind remembering and forgetting.
Always Sorting It Out Alone Is Causing You Unnecessary Suffering: 5 Steps to Getting Help From Others Without Losing Respect
Many years ago, I took the bold step of moving out of my parents’ house to live alone. Why? Because I wanted to find my path as a person, make my own decisions, and suffer the consequences myself. I believed that’s how it should be. Until a person can make uninfluenced decisions, they can’t take … Read more