Are You Enjoying It? An Essay On Compatibility, Inconveniences, and Incompatibility In Relationships

Think of a relationship like two people deciding to watch TV together. The quality of the relationship depends on how much they both enjoy the time (together) watching any show.

And just like watching TV, being in a relationship can fill people with happiness as much as it can lead to frustration and fights – just ask the kids who squabble over the channel to see.

You’re Not Running Out of Time: Why the Idea of Early and Late Bloomers Misses the Point

What nobody told me then, what nobody might have told you now, is that the “designated time” when “success” is supposed to happen is arbitrary. And the anxiety that comes from these designated timelines destroys your peace and hampers your growth. 

Yet, we run with these timelines. Society as a whole has invented two categories of individuals, early bloomers and late bloomers, to further solidify these arbitrary timelines. Both labels further intensify the issue with the timelines. 

Preparing For Greener Pastures: The Value of Personal Development, Even When You Have Nothing To Show For It

Hoping for a better life in Nigeria can feel like trying to survive in the Amazon rain forest, butt-naked. It pours problems and bad news like rain. And inflation, like a vicious beast, is always ravaging – the cost of living defies the law of aerodynamics, and the purchasing power diminishes, as the value of the naira falls against the dollar like a coconut from a tree.

So, despite all these, why am I not of the opinion that immigrating (aka “Japa”) is the solution?

Crafting a Better Nigeria: Why Your Work Should Be More Than A Means To Money 

We perceive other countries as the proverbial promised lands: clean, safe and functional. Even the internet doesn’t fail to remind us each day of Tokyo’s cherry blossoms, Paris’ romantic cafes, and the Caribbean beaches, where the sand kisses your feet and the breeze wraps around bare skin.

And so, we dream. We wish. We plan to leave.

Framing, Context, and Content: How Thoughts and Thinking (Re)shape Your Reality

Our objective reality—which includes our relationships, careers, and all other aspects of our lives—is significantly shaped by our subjective reality—which is essentially the content of our minds: our thoughts and the way we think. This is because our thoughts and thinking processes directly influence our emotions, decisions, and, ultimately, our behaviours.