I’ve always been the type that enjoys a good game, it didn’t really matter the type, I enjoy video games and outdoor games. however, I do have a unique preference for a particular game, a board game called Chess. this is because I can totally relate it to my life, and the lifestyle of everyone in general. I figured it holds the secret of how to change your lifestyle completely, just like it changed mine
Just to wow you a little, do you know that the way to play the first four moves by both sides of the game of chess is 318,979,564,000. Chess possesses a near-infinite number of permutations: there are more possible chess games than there are atoms in the observable universe
Plus there are About 600,000,000 (Six hundred million) people who know how to play chess worldwide! so it qualifies as a good game to learn lots of lessons from
if you’ve ever played it, you’ll come to some realizations
- The weakest piece(King) is actually the most valuable piece
- The least valued piece could be promoted to be the most powerful piece (Pawns – Queen)
- And finally, sacrifices are inevitable in this game
These are certainly not the only things you’ll notice about chess, but they are crucial in understanding how to change your life by ganging up
THE NEED TO GANG UP WHEN TRYING TO CHANGE YOUR LIFESTYLE
like a wise man once said, United we stand, divided we fall. it is incredibly important that we unite for a course
United we stand, divided we fall– Aesop
This is not about making friends, it’s not about segregation either, this is about generating momentum, it’s about influence, it’s about controlling our environment.
Imagine what would happen if someone decided to pick a fight with you but just when it was about to go down, like five of your friends stood up simultaneously to back you up, in this scenario only two things are possibly going to happen, its either the person backs down or he/she gets a drubbing.
This is not about violence either, like I said earlier it’s about building momentum, influence and owning your environment. The environment is key, you might think you’re running your life but the truth is that your environment is running it.
People find it hard to switch things like religion, political parties, clubs (e.g football clubs), bad habits, and so on. Some of these people you’ll discover are highly principled and can stand on whatever decision they make, yet they seem to be stuck when it comes to issues that have a large number of supporters within their cycle; Aka – Gang
This is because although we are individuals, we have adapted to survive in groups, it’s the reason parent’s advice their children to mingle with the smart kids and avoid the company of the dull kids in school, yet looking deeper into this classification of these children, the so-called smart kids may be considered complete suckers when it comes to non-academic activities ( i.e real-life problems)
Life is quite simple, however simple isn’t always easy
People talk about porn addiction and drug addiction but have you ever imagined what would happen to them if they were locked away in an island, no-really think about it, an observation was made by some folks who work with heroin addicts, they observed that people who were sent to prison facilities that had the reputation of not allowing drugs within their premises didn’t seem to suffer any form of intense withdrawal symptoms, however it was also observed that the addicts in prison facilities that had the reputation of permitting such suffered these withdrawal symptoms if they couldn’t get their hands on any drug
In essence, this is the reason people are urged to go to their places of worship as often as possible or participate in the activities of whatever body they have identified with, this is because, when people work in groups, they find it very hard to deviate from the commonly agreed behaviors. in psychology, this phenomenon is known as the crab mentality (explained on Wikipedia)
this works because doing anything contrary makes one seem like a hypocrite or inconsistent, plus there would always be people who would confront you if and when you deviate from the accepted lifestyle; and this is something most people try to avoid, especially when the person doing the confrontation is a person of influence (e.g your parents or boss)
The danger of this is that you all could be helpful to the society or cancerous to the society, in any case, it’s hard to stop being a member of a gang. Basically, if your gang is socially helpful, you are most likely helping the society and vice versa.
THE GANGS ARE EVERYWHERE AND THEY INFLUENCE YOU A LOT
You might think to yourself,” oh well, I am not affiliated with any organization”, but I’m sorry to break it to you, you are already involved in not just one, but multiple gangs – you are already one of them
If you are conversant with the Internet then you must have heard of the term “filtering”. Filtering implies not everything gets through, that’s to say only a permitted and possibly only selected contents get to you.
I remember some time ago when the news of Boko Haram and ISIS was all over the internet, it was a steady inflow of bad news, it was beginning to freak me out, guess what happened, I filtered that content, whenever I saw any news of beheading, bombing or kidnapping I look for an option that says “I don’t want to see this” and I click on it, I went a step further by unfollowing news channels and unfriending anyone who kept on shearing such things. Now I can say to you that such news no longer appears on my social feeds.
Removing contents is one thing Adding and following is another
The internet is full of Billions of people with different interests and goals, and they usually flock to where their interests are being considered, and that common interest is exactly what Ganging up is all about.
You might be tempted to say “that’s nothing”, but really its something. The moment you choose to listen to anything consistently, you automatically get sucked into that world.
from the celebrities online, to the bloggers blogging, it doesn’t really matter, as soon as you start listening to them, and following them, they begin to influence your opinions and views.
it is extremely important to choose what to listen to and what to stop listening to. there is this amazing thing about the human mind, its called the subconscious, and it literally dictates all our actions. the downside to this is that it’s like an open drum, whatever gets in sticks around and in a way adds a little weight to the drum.
when we keep our subconscious tank unchecked, by allowing any and everything in, we begin to see anger, fear, hate, and many nasty things bubble up from within us, and then we wonder how come? but it isn’t rocket science, you let them in. you listened to that crap, and now you are moving with the wrong gang unknown to you
but let’s go back to the chessboard
ALL YOU NEED TO CHANGE YOUR LIFESTYLE COMPLETLY
You see, the truth is that it’s quite impossible to capture one’s king with a single Pawn at a time, which implies that the effort of more than one piece is required to achieve any meaningful thing on the chessboard.
The position of one piece to another can determine if that piece can be captured or if it would be spared, sometimes more than one pieces could be in position to capture a piece but would not take the shot because there are even more pieces ready to retaliate, In a way that’s to say that the influence of one piece on another matter a lot.
Government Policies are not made because of the strongest men said such policies should be made, they are made because men with influence said it should be made. these people with the influence are those voted into power by the masses.
Influence, in other words, is gained with the number of people that are ready and willing to back up the individual, Now you understand what the follow and likes mean on social media – SUPPORT, and that support translates to influence, because, you know, its the people we like and follow that usually influence us, and in a way they have become our gang leaders
I know the idea is getting all over the place, so I’m going to do my best to streamline it now.
Here’s the thing, Human Relationship with one another is like a web, we are all woven together, interconnected and interdependent, however, everyone is not equal, some individuals manage to gain enough support to be leaders and as a leader they show others what to do or at least help people organize their ideas and bring their goals to realization,
It stands to reason that each leader is vehemently pushing a course and is directly influencing everyone under him(in his gang), all he would ever do or say would be to influence the people under him to act in a certain way, and everyone under him supports him and are ready to go any extent to protect and support him too. in other words, the followers too would seek to influence people within them thereby reinforcing the influence of the leader making the course they support even more widespread and socially accepted, thus creating the ideal gang
THE TRAP OF FRIENDSHIP
Since I’ve been able to establish the fact that we all belong to one group or another, its time to examine who are the leaders and how they influence us.
A celebrity that Smokes and uses drugs is directly influencing his fans, they too would smoke and do drugs and would definitely urge their friends to do the same.
Any friend that doesn’t do that is to an extent isolated and eventually kicked out of the gang, and because being left out or rejected isn’t such a good feeling most people tend to go along with the crowd ,”it’s just for fun, I’m not an addict or something” the person would think to himself, NEWS FLASH: you don’t have to be an addict to suffer lungs cancer
LEAVING A GANG- the final step to a better life
The action gets reinforced over and over again, and soon the only people he would know would be those who do the same thing he does, leaving the gang won’t be that easy, not with their constant reminder of the need to belong and be a Bro OR Babe
It’s like a feedback loop, just that this one has no end
NOTE: This strain would occur even if the individual wants to leave a group considered “Good”
JOINING A NEW GANG – the final step on how to change your lifestyle completely
The good news, however, is this, every gang has the same pattern of influence, all you need to do is tune in to the frequency of that gang, every other thing takes care of itself.
In other words, if you want to change your life, you’re most likely going to achieve it by first changing your environment, by changing your darn Gang.
Avoid like a flue, anybody who tells you anything contrary to what you want to become, be it friends or family, television, social networks, etcetera and associate with whatever group of people you want to be like.
they would make sure you become that, it’s not really your choice immediately you belong, they just drag you along. You can always trust the crab mentality to take over
Finding the right set of people is very essential. it could mean the difference between success and failure in life. this is because like in a game of chess, one single Pawn doesn’t capture a king, it takes the whole gang.
and by understanding this dynamic, that is how you change your lifestyle completely
P.S: All humans can belong to a single Gang, it’s called Humanity(love for one another)