This is a topic I relate to on a personal level, always feeling awkward when you step outside and see people all jolly and merry with their friends, talking, playing and having fun together, sometimes you begin to ask yourself if there is something fundamentally wrong with you, if there is something lacking in you, something you’re missing

If that is you, your worries are about to come to an end, I’m so sure about this because I too was an extreme asocial person, if there were degrees given in being an introvert, I think I got it all even to the PHD level

Never the less, this is a Disclaimer: a wise man once said, “you’re the architect of your own destiny”, that being said ,it is important to note that the piece of information I’ve given here is to assist you come out of the situation you’ve found yourself, I’m only giving the guide lines , you must do the work

So, back to where we stopped

Sometimes in order to deal with challenges in our lives, it is important for us to fully consider what is ailing us, every illness has its own separate cure, no matter how closely related they may seem, it is therefore paramount for you who is having this challenge to know exactly what’s wrong or isn’t wrong with you

The issue here being Friendship is indeed a very needful and in fact indispensable aspect of human relationship with unlimited usefulness, people say money can’t buy friends, that is true, but who can be considered a friend, with whom can you start to build a friendSHIP

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someone once said “what is a friend? A single soul dwelling in two bodies”, this is particularly true, because without this union and oneness in reasoning and pattern of action all the fun and usefulness won’t be there

Friends are those with whom we go through life

There is totally no need to change who you are in order to get a friend, there is no need to change your dressing, the only thing that you have to change is your mind-set

Pardon me, but I have to quote another wise man who said “a friend is nothing but a known enemy”, the notion that a friend has to be GOOD or CLASSY or “this or that” is probably the very reason you haven’t found anyone to call a friend.

You have to come to terms with the fact that we are all humans (Pawns:” constantly changing and exploring”),

The trick to having a friend is walking  across the streets with your head held up high(unless the sun is too hot) and always wearing a smile, a friend would seamlessly come into your life, all it actually requires is you understanding that this person means me no harm and is very likely to risk his/her neck to some extent for me (of course the extent would be dependent on how close you guys have become),

All you have to do is to show your genuine interest in the persons’ well being

You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you-DALE CARNEGIE

Strong bonds develop with time

when you come across people with similar interest, or have a common problem or task, do well to be nice by exchanging pleasantries. when shearing ideas try respecting the other persons opinion no matter how absurd, friends are never won by arguments, prove your point , if they think it’s worth it they follow else let them be

the most important thing to take care of is you, with constant self-development, you’ll find people flocking to be friends with you, however the choice of who and how close you want any friendship to be lies solely in your hand

Be nice, be awesome and enjoy your life

For further study and to aid you I suggest you check out the book “How to win friends and influence people” by Dale Carnegie