for its sake is like a smelly bowl of horseshit, then it gives you diarrhea. No, really, it backfires.
I have given an insight into the nature of discipline in my previous article (this is why you never came first in class)
The truth is that you can never force anyone or even yourself to do anything, and continue doing it unless “meaning” is attached to it
take for instance the Pyramids which were built to record-breaking sizes with limited technology so that it stands as one of the wonders of the world till date. What motivated the Egyptians to take on such monstrous tasks and see them to completion?
ANSWER: Afterlife. they were trying to transport their Pharaohs to the afterlife, it was something out of this world, a greater meaning for life.
Impossible bridges, impossible cities, impossible tunnels, and all impossible records, etcetera … whatever it is you think of that has amazed or awed you all came from a greater purpose.
Saying that with discipline you can achieve anything is like saying “when metal gets red hot it can melt rubber”. Everyone knows that. The question is How do I get the metal hot? And most importantly, how do I keep it that way?
Because discipline like a muscle which gets weak with time if something is not motivating that discipline, it usually ends in failure, which creates negative feedback. A feeling of incompetence which actually ends up creating a negative self-image and that can be really counterproductive
when you ask overweight people why they are overweight, they would most likely tell you that they “can’t” do this or that …, this mentality of “not being able to” is the problem.
HOW TO GET THE METAL HOT – and keep it that way (the source of discipline)
No matter how trivial or stupid the goal is, with the right reasons it can be achieved, same goes for the difficult and impossible tasks.
Studying hard so you can pass the exam, or buying a new car to reduce the stress of trekking are not good enough reasons for a person to be disciplined and that is why the grades never come up.
Real driving force comes when strong reason is attached to a task, for instance: I need to pass this exam, so I could get a scholarship and complete my studies since my parents can’t afford to keep paying my fees, and I need to graduate so I could have a nice job to pull the family out of this living hell – poverty
Discipline is given birth to by reason, the stronger the reason the stronger the discipline
Back then in secondary school (high school), I wanted to be respected and loved by Mom and Dad, so I read all through the nights and came out with flying colors.
Last year I wanted a six-pack, so I started working out, I felt it would make me look sexy and improve my self-esteem, so I did it and again it worked, until I decided that, no, I don’t need them to improve my self-esteem, and that was how my abs workouts came to a screeching stop.
Think about this…
What if you already got all the things you wanted, would there be any more need to pursue anything with discipline
WHAT IF YOU ALREADY GOT ALL THE THINGS YOU WANT
Why are these children spoilt brats? why is he so rude? why is she so arrogant?
ANSWER: They don’t need any of that; the children have no need for respect (at least that’s what they think), he is rude because he is in charge (at least that’s what he thinks), she is arrogant because she doesn’t need you or anything (again that’s what she thinks)
Discipline comes when the bar is set high. When the goal to be achieved is demanding, just hard enough for us to convince ourselves that if we put in enough effort we could archive it, but not too low as to make us neglect it or too high to make us despair.
THE ONE SECRET TO BEING DISCIPLINED
It all boils down to what you think and what you consider important and necessary. If you feel you have the need to learn self-defense, then you’ll have the discipline of going through the pain of Boxing lessons.
it is always wise to see the bigger picture
In the middle of an Ocean, slapping your hands against the water, making splashes and kicking in every possible direction wouldn’t get you to safety. But if you can look to find the direction of an island or a floating object, then every kick and splash you make would eventually take you closer to your destination, the pain and consistency (discipline) would simply be a bi-product of your objective.
Just try not to set the bar too high, nothing is discouraging as being told you would have to kill three lions with your bare hands in other to have a piece of cake. If possible, break the goals into small achievable bits.
KEEP YOURSELF MOTIVATED AND FOCUSED
Finding the meaning for your life can stir you in the right direction.
However, meaning is an elusive thing. What one person finds meaningful can be complete nonsense to another.
My only say on this, is, find something you want to die doing, and then die doing it.
It is the nature of humans to chase after something, make that thing worthwhile and regularly remind yourself of that Utopia over the mountain even if you are in the Vally of the shadow of death.
see the light and chase it, like your life depended on it, because maybe it does.
Promise a child a cup of ice cream and he would do his assignments
Discipline is birthed by purpose, so next time someone or yourself complain of your lack of discipline, ask yourself, do I want to do this? what is the bigger picture that I can’t see? If you don’t find the right answer to any of these then you have no need to be disciplined about that, end of story
and oh before I forget, find time to relax and unwind. Remember Discipline and will power are like muscles, they tire. So, do find time to sip some cold drink whilst on that chase for a better you
I was serious about that relaxation thing. there is something called Ego Depletion in psychology, it can really make things hard if you are a first-timer at something. for further reading, check out this article on wikipedia – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ego_depletion